I am a newly wed that got what I expected. A beautiful, smart, loving, psycho wife. She has th wildest mood swings of anyone that I have ever known.

We are working on our first kid and she feels like she is under stress to get it done (like it is one sided :rolleyes: ). (Didn't take my advice in keeping it to ourselves until she is pregnant, but oh-well.) So now everybody and their brother is calling everyday and it is driving her nuts.....which in turn drives me nuts.

Will the mood swings get any better? She goes from being loving and happy to taking cheap shots at me for no reason. I have tough skin but this is relentless and it has been for a couple weeks now. Even our friends are like, "Damn, what have you done. I must have been bad."

Or am I doomed until our kids move out and we retire?

Thanks
Tim (Expected this when I popped the question.)

You'll learn to turn the sound down and stay married, or hit the road. I decided to turn the sound down. That was 19 years ago.
Rich

PS...Good luck;)

Tell her it's getting on your nerves. Communication is a MUST if you want it to last. You guys are both under stress, make sure you are working through it together.

yup talk to her let her know shes being a bi%$# she will understand after a good talk ,13 years of listening and i still have to remind her when shes on the war path but all is good if the comunication lines are open :D

I didn't need to tell her. She would come up to me and say I know I am being hard on you and I don't mean it. I know this and tell her when she says something that is too far. We communicate better than our parents did. I guess we don't want to end up divorsed.

I have figured out the volumn control (had too for my boss) but my wife is too smart to do it for long. :D

Thanks
Tim

Originally posted by Tim Smith
We communicate better than our parents did.
Thanks
Tim

You married your sister?

If you can't find a way around her NORMAL faults, then sit her down and talk with her. If that doesn't work, try sitting down with a pastor/priest or a counselor, to get a 3rd party perspective.

Believe it or not, it's ok for women to pick and nag at you. They're sharing their frustrations and fears that way, although it's extremely tiring.

BAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH.... you dont actually think that the mood swings will get better once you knock her up do you??? hahahahahahahahahahahahahaha.......

This isn't her normal picking and complaning and venting (one of the reasons I married her). This is above and beyond. Like I said, I have tough skin and I don't take things to heart at all, unless I should.

This is imbalance. I think it is because she is in the early stages of pregnancy (or I hope she is). A friend of mine said his wife basically lost it during her pregnancy (I confirm just from what I saw). He used to call me at 2 in the morning and tell me she has been screaming at him for 3 hours (And I can hear her in the background) about the fact that it is cold outside, hot inside and she can't get comfortable and that she knows that he can't make it any better, but screaming none-the-less.

But now that the youngin' is born she is back to "normal".

I am just basically hoping that this is the beginning and that there will be an end.

Tim

Any time you feel you need "toughening up", just start a thread here, titled "Abuse Me".

When Andreé and I first got married, this was a stress point for us. Thirteen years with no birth control, and still no baby. We decided after about a year, that if it was meant to be, it would happen, and that we wouldn't try any medical hocus-pocus to bring it about. She feels worse about it now, than I do - she says "but you make such a great father, and you're so good with kids...", and I say, "yeah, and I have no problem cleaning up puke, and changing diapers - so what?"

You can make this a stumbling block, or you can just say "to hell with it" and never even think about timing, ovulation, or any of that crap. Enjoy each other, and if it's supposed to happen, it will. To all your friends & relatives asking "when's the baby coming", tell them "when it's damned good and ready, and until then, shut the fawk up".

:D

You need one of these. :D :D :D

Trade her in for a new and improved model:D Personally, I put up with enough mood swings and verbal shit from my ex wife when we were married so I was determined that if I found a new woman, that I wouldn't allow the same thing to happen.

Theresa and I have been married for over five years now and have yet to have a single arguement. Our lines of communication are always open and we have no problem telling each other how we feel.

I know that you said that she will tell you when she's treating you bad,...but I really think that you need to tell her,....and be straight up about it to.

Originally posted by sceep
BAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH.... you dont actually think that the mood swings will get better once you knock her up do you??? hahahahahahahahahahahahahaha.......

Preach on Brutha Sceep!

i think that when she does get preggi then all her bitchen at you energy will be re-focased on pregi stuff..then baby stuff...so you will in the clear then! :D:D

Originally posted by InfantryYJ
Trade her in for a new and improved model:D Personally, I put up with enough mood swings and verbal shit from my ex wife when we were married so I was determined that if I found a new woman, that I wouldn't allow the same thing to happen.

Theresa and I have been married for over five years now and have yet to have a single arguement. Our lines of communication are always open and we have no problem telling each other how we feel.



Dude, I think we lived parelell lives:eek: :D

Screaming and throwing tantrums is OK in a marriage if that is REALLY what she needs to do to release stress. BUT, when it's directed at you, it's not acceptable.

You can't allow her to make her verbal assaults personal. I've seen a few women in my life that will get pissy and say any old hurtful thing they feel like because they know that they can simply apologize later and it will be OK again.

That gets old REALLY fast. You need to set some boundaries with her. She may be mentally unhealty or she may just be taking advantage of you.

Only you can decide which is happening. Don't be her punching bag. Let her bitch if she's feeling stressed but if she bitches AT you instead of TO you, there's a problem.

Don't be her doormat.

John

Originally posted by Mo


Preach on Brutha Sceep!

No kidding. Wait till she gets preggo THEN come back and ask advice.

You're Doomed.
:flipoff2:










(Since one one else would truthfully answer the question!) :D

I got some friends in the same place...Baby making is an incredibly complcated genentic event, so cut yourself some slack. Both of you are under a lot of pressure, so I am sure that leads to some conflict. Stick it out and be supportive. Remember that she is getting it on all fronts, so be supportive.

Remember that love is a verb it takes work. If you love your wife, make yourself love her even if you are hurt or angry.

Originally posted by rusted


Believe it or not, it's ok for women to pick and nag at you.



You're joking, right??

The first year or two of marriage for me was a little tough. What we did to get things square was TALK!!!! Sometimes the discussion's got a little heated (little?) but now were and falling in on the same wavelength. When my wife has a bad day and snaps at me, I just move on. If it keeps up, then we talk. She knows that if I say I need to work in the garage, that means that I still love her, just need some unwinding time...

As for the people calling all the time, we did this and it worked great. We 1) stopped answering the phone 2) stopped answering the door. We needed US time, they are not in this marriage, we are so we told them to leave us alone, nicely, unless they didn't then we told them to STAY AWAY. Especcially with newly married folks and REAL especially with newly married folks trying to have a baby, you need time without anyone else calling, stopping by. You and your wife need to make a united front against what is causing her the anxiety and then STOP IT. If it is her job, help her find a new one, if it is your family, have a talk with them and tell them to leave you alone (my situation), if it is her family, politely suggest to her that she talk with them.

BUT FOR GAWDS SAKE, Talk to your wife. If she comes up and apologizes, don't just say "'kay" and move on, tell her it's getting to you and talk about it.

Originally posted by Mustard Dog


Dude, I think we lived parelell lives:eek: :D

Does that mean I have to put some dirt under my chin and call it a goatee:flipoff2: :flipoff2:

Originally posted by InfantryYJ


Does that mean I have to put some dirt under my chin and call it a goatee:flipoff2: :flipoff2:

Just as soon as you get retired:D

Originally posted by Mustard Dog


Just as soon as you get retired:D

Ahhhh, no way,.....but I will let my hair grow loooooonnnnng:D

Originally posted by InfantryYJ


but I will let my hair grow loooooonnnnng:D


I let my hair grow for 15 months after I got out of 10 years in
the Navy. I got tired of it after that and have kept it short since
then.

Originally posted by SanDiegoCJ



I let my hair grow for 15 months after I got out of 10 years in
the Navy. I got tired of it after that and have kept it short since
then.

Are we hijacking this guys thread??

Originally posted by InfantryYJ


Are we hijacking this guys thread??



Sure, why not. It's not like that would be a novel occurance around here. :D :D :D

Thanks everyone.

Tim

Originally posted by InfantryYJ


Are we hijacking this guys thread??

Cheese!!:bounce:

Originally posted by Tim Smith

I have figured out the volumn control (had too for my boss) but my wife is too smart to do it for long. :D

Dude, don't try to turn down the volume on your wife, turn down the gain on your receiver. You'll catch less shit for it.

Originally posted by Co Pilot


Cheese!!:bounce:




mmmmmmmmmmmmm cheese is goooooooooooooddddddd!!!!!!!!!

Your FAWKED! Just cut off your dick and give it to her!


Excuse me if this has already been asked and answered. I read about half of the posts.
Is she on any crap to make her more furtile? If so that's her mood problems. Get use to it because most of the pregnancy will be the same way. Then the first couple weeks after the birth you will both be overhwelmed with the kiddo and she will still be a hormonal mess. After about a year after the baby is born she will level back out.

Originally posted by sceep
BAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH.... you dont actually think that the mood swings will get better once you knock her up do you??? hahahahahahahahahahahahahaha.......

Hell hath no fury like a pregnant woman.

Tim,
Just remember, the best part about kids is making them!!!!!:D :D :beer:

Originally posted by Paul Gagnon


Hell hath no fury like a pregnant woman.

:mad: WTF you trying to say Paul???







































j/k :flipoff2:

WALK TO DOOR ,OPEN DOOR,

NOW CLOSE IT SOFT,

NOW RUN . I JUST SAVED YOU A 20K Divorce,




If you do Stay:

1.Hope she is a awsome cook.

2. Hope she knows how to use a vaccume and will,3x a week.

3.in all seriosness ,sounds like she might have been raped or messed with as a young girl,AND NOW SHES GETTING HER

*****MANHATE ******WAYS ON!!!!!!!!!

my mom was like this with my dad and her later 2 other husbands
she treated themlike this ,**only afterTHAY GOT MARRIED**.

women are very mean after being messed with wrong/

hope it gets better.TRY PROZAK when not prego-.

just my .02

GOOOD LUCK.too

Originally posted by 4RUNNERJADE
WALK TO DOOR ,OPEN DOOR,

NOW CLOSE IT SOFT,

NOW RUN . I JUST SAVED YOU A 20K Divorce,




If you do Stay:

1.Hope she is a awsome cook.

2. Hope she knows how to use a vaccume and will,3x a week.

3.in all seriosness ,sounds like she might have been raped or messed with as a young girl,AND NOW SHES GETTING HER

*****MANHATE ******WAYS ON!!!!!!!!!

my mom was like this with my dad and her later 2 other husbands
she treated themlike this ,**only afterTHAY GOT MARRIED**.

women are very mean after being messed with wrong/

hope it gets better.TRY PROZAK when not prego-.

just my .02

GOOOD LUCK.too

Hmmmmmm...I'm betting your single, right? :rolleyes: :flipoff2:

If every woman that is bitchy was abused or raped as a child that must mean I got f**ked a lot as a child :rolleyes: That has got to be the most moronic statement I have seen here in a long time. Not to mention being a REALLY rude thing to say to someone you know nothing about :shaking: :roxy:

Originally posted by Paul Gagnon


Hell hath no fury like a pregnant woman.

Some of you must be married to some wacko's:D

Originally posted by InfantryYJ


Some of you must be married to some wacko's:D

I'm not married but I know a few women who are extrememly unpredictable when they are pregnant. :eek:

If every woman that is bitchy was abused or raped as a child that must mean I got f**ked a lot as a child

I must have dated quite a few girls that were total sluts as children, cause I have ran into some unreasonable females (aka bitches) in my day...

The whole deal about the mood swings, if your wife IS on some fertility shit.... that's at least part of the problem. Anything that messes with a woman's hormones is serious business. I don't think you can really blame her, cause if that's the case she can't really help it. My wife is one of the genuinely nicest people I have ever known in my life. After two kids my wife was on birth control pills, and it was like cuntzilla when she took the green ones... she always apologized later, but it still kinda gets to you. We finally got her off of that shit fearing that our children would think that kind of behavior was normal. All's well again. When she was pregnant, it was more of a crying one minute then happy the next type of thing, but there were definitely mood swings. You married your wife for better or worse... and right now you're dealing with worse.

Updated info that may help.

We are newly weds but have been married for 6 months. We lived together for 14 months before that.

She is not on any fertile increasing thing nor am I. She did just get off of the pill after being on it for the better part of 2 years. Screwed her cycle up too. That was only a month ago so we have expected it to take a coupl months for her to get back to normal.

She is one of the most stable and predictible people I know. Not to say she has never bitc8ed before but it was alway predictible. It is starting to get unpredictible but I atributing that to the fact that we are changing our lifestyle so much for the upcoming kids.

I talked to her last night about it and she was very understanding as her sister just told her the same thing, as did her mom and dad. And brother. So she is finally figuring out that she may be grading on peopl a little bit.

Then we worked on kids for a while. :evil: :evil: :evil:

Thanks for everyones help.

Tim

Originally posted by Tim Smith
Updated info that may help.

She is not on any fertile increasing thing nor am I. She did just get off of the pill after being on it for the better part of 2 years. Screwed her cycle up too. That was only a month ago so we have expected it to take a coupl months for her to get back to normal.

Tim

Pill is Hormones dude. It will take her a while to ballance out.
Been there done this bit.
Lay low and it will blow over. Just remember..Even when your right your wrong, STFU and smile :D

thats why god created garages...........go work on your rig. :flipoff2:

One word "screwed" get used to it. I thought my ol lady had mood swings before kids, HA, try mood swings after two kids.:nuke:

Originally posted by Tim Smith
I talked to her last night about it and she was very understanding

Tim

That's the deal right there. The mood swings may very well be a chemical imbalance, she may not realize how bitchy she is being. Tell her, but do it in a VERY NICE WAY!!!!! :D

Originally posted by MudBunny


Hmmmmmm...I'm betting your single, right? :rolleyes: :flipoff2:









WRONG :


ALMOST ******9 YEARS AND 1 AWSOME 2.5 Year old SON LATER.

alls good and she keeps a awsome house too and vaccuumes daily too.

But to be Honest ,I do most of the Good Cooking.


LOOK AT HER MOM, thats what youll be sitting next too in 20 years.

For Better / or Worse.

Originally posted by Tim Smith
Then we worked on kids for a while. :evil: :evil: :evil:


there ya go :D Now keep up with that and take Camo's advice as well, and all will be good in the universe. ;)

(20 years and 4 kids talkin')

BTW Do NOT EVER let her know you were stupid enough to air her moodiness out on a bulletin board or she will hand you your mutilated nutz in a jar. :eek: Just a wee hint ;)