I dont know if you all remmeber but my best friends hubby was diagnosed with cancer july 3...terminal...but had an operation to take out the kidney etc... he is 35 with kids 7 and 9

he started feeling bad again and went in...had a catscan and got the results this afternoon...its everywher ein him and 1-2 months to live tops :(

my Q is HOW do i help....other then being there ..i feel like i should DO something to help them....i feel like i should do more

Anyone else ever been in this situation? how can i make these last few months(if that) good for them and the kids? how can i help ?

this is so dam unfair :(

TIA

be there as a friend, help with her household responsibities so she can spend more time with him. Other than that I really cant think of anything

Cook, Clean, run errands. Take away the little nagging items that every family has to do to survive day to day. Just show up with dinner as often as possible (cold casseroles that can be heated easily anytime are the best). And LISTEN. Many times, these people have so many things to say and no one to lean on or they feel that no one wants to hear about it because it will make them uncomfortable.

Best of luck. You are a true friend. :)

Be there for them is the biggest thing. As in listening to them and letting them vent. Something like this is sometimes the biggest thing you can do for them... You also might take a calander and have their friends and family sign up for days where they do the cooking, cleaning, laundry.... basically whatever they can do on that day. That would free time for them all to be able to be together. Sounds you like you are a great friend... :)

Originally posted by Schly
Cook, Clean, run errands. Take away the little nagging items that every family has to do to survive day to day. Just show up with dinner as often as possible (cold casseroles that can be heated easily anytime are the best). And LISTEN. Many times, these people have so many things to say and no one to lean on or they feel that no one wants to hear about it because it will make them uncomfortable.

Best of luck. You are a true friend. :)

I think that's some pretty good advice right there.

Phone the hospital and find the/a social worker who handles these kinds of situations.

They are INVALUBLE for exactly what you need right now.Really, call them tomorrow first thing.

Be there for her now & don't forget her months down the road when "everything has passed".


Sorry 'bout your friend :(


TEX