ok im getting ready to link the rear of my 84 pick-up with tj coils. I want a nuetral ride. When i take off i dont want my rear end to lift up or suck down. Now please correct me if im worng ,but does'nt that mean i want my top links parallel to the ground at ride hight? Or is that top and bottom ?

What you are referring to is anti-squat. It has nothing to do with links being parallel to the ground. 100% anti-squat is considered nuetral.

Start by reading all of this:

http://www.pirate4x4.com/forum/showthread.php?t=168577

Once you have the basics, you can start plugging in your measurements into the 4 link calculator. This is where I started and i learned a ton. My set up works great. Take the time to read.