Does this make me a pussy? sandy nay-nay? Brad? emo bullshit

[FullsizeYota]

Does this make me a big stretched-out-texas-style vanay nay?

moved 350 miles from home/friends for work. did this in Nov. 05

im 20, was married july 06 to a girl i had been dating for 2 years and she moved down here with me. we have the same hometown. things were going pretty good.

wifey gets a job at Costco.. starting pay is good, good hours, holiday pay blah blah blah.. now they tell her its mandatory to work saturdays and *most* sundays, she'll get 1 sunday off every 2 months or so about 3-4 nights a week she gets stuck closing, gets off at 10pm.

cliff notes, moved away, got married, never see new wife, have ZERO friends.. either of us. all we do is work

i dont mind working, i like my job, but fuck, its ALL i do. work and come home and sit on PBB you guys are the closest thing to "friends" i have, and i dont even know any of you

i'm usually a happy person, have no problem waking up, have energy all day long, very ambitious (the reason i was sent here for work) but lately, i dont give a shit about anything, i usually crash around 11 pm, have a hard time waking up...

never have i felt like this

[Otto Man]

Should make the marriage better at least. Or worse, depends how you look at it.



To be honest, I have 3 true, genuine friends. Everyone else I know are either aqutenices (Yes, too lazy to spell check) or regular friends. Nobody I would put my life on the line for. Out of my 3 friends, one is in the Coast Guard who I rarely see (And recently married, making it that much worse). One goes to a 4yr college. I see him every so often during school, and not much in summertime. He chases girls around and is slowly drifiting into the dark side and I am trying to get him out of the rut. Dark side as toking it up, taking pills, you get the idea. My last friend I work with, and see usually 6-7 days a week.

So...my point? I have one friend I see on a regular basis. Your not alone.

[Joe_W]

have wife look for a new job?

[MT4Runner]

We hate you, too!

Seriously, though, can you reschedule your work so you get one day a week off together? Can you work afternoons/nights so you get mornings together?

You can do a lot with just your spouse, but being on separate schedules and no nearby friends would suck.

Any local wheelin' clubs?

Sell Amway!

[FullsizeYota]

Originally Posted by Joe_W

have wife look for a new job?

i took her to lunch today and talked to her.. but since we moved down here, and dont know anybody, she's unsure about finding another job..

i keep telling her, she found one job, she can find another..

hell, i'm a salesman, thats all i do is look for jobs

[MT4Runner]

Could you get a part-time evening job at Costco? Even if you didn't work side by side, you could take breaks together, drive to and from work together, and split $1.50 Polish dogs!

You obviously have no time to spend the money you're making, so make a 1-2 year plan to rathole a bunch of money, and then save it for a down payment on a house somewhere where you're closer to either your or her friends.

[a plumber]

you need to ask yourself what is important in life, you are only 350 miles from the family. look on the bright side, at least you don't chase tirds for a living

[ironpig70]

23 married with an new born and worked days but worked 6-7 days a week 10-12 hours a day. sucks but we found time and now i see it was for the best.

[AERONUTT]

Welcome to being 20 years old. Life is hard getting started. You got no money, no nice house, no nice bling, you owe money on everything you own, and to top it all off you get a nice case of depression. It looks like a hopeless rut and yet you keep on churning because that's what you have to do. I've been in your shoes. It sucks.

Now the good news. You're 20 years old. You couldn't possibly have everything screwed up yet. You haven't had enough time!

My best advise based on the extremely limited peek you've given me into your life is this:
1) Your wife comes first. Anything less leads to divorce in short order. Even if you don't have any money for fancy dinners, set time aside every week to kindle the romance. Put your "man show" toughness in the closet, park the testosterone wagon, strap on your vagina, and take a walk in the park holding hands with your wife. It doesn't hurt to wash the dishes and mop the floor every now and then too.

2) Stay out of debt. This is easily the hardest thing for young people to do because the YEARNing power vastly outweighs the EARNing power. The lure of easy credit has destroyed more people than all the illegal drugs in the world. Trust me on this one, I've been there. If you can't pay for it with the cash you have then you don't need it. This goes for cars, stereos, TVs, furniture, restaurants, gas money, etc. If you can't afford to pay for it today, then how in the hell are you going to pay for it tomorrow when you have new bills to pay AND the crap you bought today? Learn from my mistake here. There is absolutely NOTHING that needs to be bought so bad that it's worth going into debt for until you have the rest of your life settled down and you plan your budget out to include savings, investments, life insurance, retirement planning, and buying a home. You think I'm crazy to tell you to plan these "Old people" things while you are 20? Trust me, it's NEVER too early to start setting these things up. Once you have a budget plan that covers all those bases as well as normal monthly expenses, then you can look into some extravagances.

3) Never stay at a job you don't like. Retail jobs are NOT a career worth getting upset about! Have your wife tell her boss in writing exactly when she can and cannot work. If she wants Sundays off and is only willing to close 2 days per week, write it down and give it to the boss. If she gets fired for standing firm on telling her boss when she will or will not work, it's not a big loss. There are plenty of other jobs that she can take. I would rather have a $10 per hour job thats rewarding and fun than a $30 per hour job that drives me to depression.

4) To have a friend, be a friend. This should be self-evident, but the more you help others the more favors you can call on when you need to. Some people call in Karma, I call it being a nice guy with a motive. The important thing here is to always do more for them than they do for you. Do it with a smile and it's amazing how much better you will feel and how many friends you will have.

[4Mogger]

I live 1067 miles from my home. I get back every other month for anywhere from 4 to 7 days. I usually get to spend most of July at the family ranch in Montrose, Colorado.
I live in St. Louis, Missouri for just two reasons. The first--the schools my kids attend (best situations I can even imagine for them) and second--the work. I need a city of a couple of million people to make a living at what I do and I really, really do not like Denver. I like the people in St. Louis. But all of my friends are in Montrose.
My friends in St. Louis are more like contacts.

[johnny_boy02]

I think you are a pussy for using the word " wifey".

[DieLucas!]

Originally Posted by johnny_boy02

I think you are a pussy for using the word " wifey".

Especially for not using it in the correct, acceptable phrase, "Wifey Pics"...and even worse, not posting pics.

[Haole]

Pics or ban

[kodiak1232003]

Originally Posted by Otto Man

Should make the marriage better at least. Or worse, depends how you look at it.



To be honest, I have 3 true, genuine friends. Everyone else I know are either aqutenices (Yes, too lazy to spell check) or regular friends. Nobody I would put my life on the line for. Out of my 3 friends, one is in the Coast Guard who I rarely see (And recently married, making it that much worse). One goes to a 4yr college. I see him every so often during school, and not much in summertime. He chases girls around and is slowly drifiting into the dark side and I am trying to get him out of the rut. Dark side as toking it up, taking pills, you get the idea. My last friend I work with, and see usually 6-7 days a week.

So...my point? I have one friend I see on a regular basis. Your not alone.

x2

honestly, thats my situation too...i have very few TRUE friends...probably can count them on one hand. i just don't make friends that easily i guess.

i'm 28, married happily, with 2 kids and having a great time, though. i'm finishing my masters, so i'm busy as hell, but really its my wife and my few good buds, that get me through.

don't need a shitload of friends in my opinion..just a few good ones..

[Entropy]

Same story here except I was 18.

I got sick of it and decided to do something about it.

Within 3 years, I went from 8.50 an hour to 48,000 a year in Salary with a high school diploma. Desk job, all the benefits, vacation, blah blah blah...

It is ten years later and then some and I make quite a bit more now - but that set the foundation for me. Your future is a consequence of the present.

Figure out what you want, figure out a plan to do it, and then do it.

Friends will come along in the mix - that takes time.

[HardBodyJut]

Originally Posted by FullsizeYota

i like my job, butt fuck, its ALL i do

Did no one else realize that this thread is just a bragging response to the anal sex threads?

[fledgling666]

Originally Posted by FullsizeYota

Does this make me a big stretched-out-texas-style vanay nay?

moved 350 miles from home/friends for work. did this in Nov. 05

im 20, was married july 06 to a girl i had been dating for 2 years and she moved down here with me. we have the same hometown. things were going pretty good.

wifey gets a job at Costco.. starting pay is good, good hours, holiday pay blah blah blah.. now they tell her its mandatory to work saturdays and *most* sundays, she'll get 1 sunday off every 2 months or so about 3-4 nights a week she gets stuck closing, gets off at 10pm.

cliff notes, moved away, got married, never see new wife, have ZERO friends.. either of us. all we do is work

i dont mind working, i like my job, but fuck, its ALL i do. work and come home and sit on PBB you guys are the closest thing to "friends" i have, and i dont even know any of you

i'm usually a happy person, have no problem waking up, have energy all day long, very ambitious (the reason i was sent here for work) but lately, i dont give a shit about anything, i usually crash around 11 pm, have a hard time waking up...

never have i felt like this

quit and move again, someplace active. this will keep building. been there.

[FullsizeYota]

Originally Posted by HardBodyJut

Did no one else realize that this thread is just a bragging response to the anal sex threads?

i was wondering how long that would take for someone to notice

[FullsizeYota]

Originally Posted by Entropy

Same story here except I was 18.

I got sick of it and decided to do something about it.

Within 3 years, I went from 8.50 an hour to 48,000 a year in Salary with a high school diploma. Desk job, all the benefits, vacation, blah blah blah...

It is ten years later and then some and I make quite a bit more now - but that set the foundation for me. Your future is a consequence of the present.

Figure out what you want, figure out a plan to do it, and then do it.

Friends will come along in the mix - that takes time.

that was kinda the plan for moving down here... i was making 9.50 and hour and now i'm on salary that works out to be around 15 an hour... thats my salary base, i make commision off of that.. i shouldn't have a problem pulling in 100K once i get a good customer base. we have 2 other salesman making this so i know its possible

[mantis]

I have no friends (big surprise, huh? ), I live 1300 miles away from my family, I work 60+ hours a week, but at least I see my wife and kids each night when I get home from work.

[FullsizeYota]

Originally Posted by kodiak1232003

x2

honestly, thats my situation too...i have very few TRUE friends...probably can count them on one hand. i just don't make friends that easily i guess.

don't need a shitload of friends in my opinion..just a few good ones..

i'm kinda the same way.... i know quite a few people kinda casual friends but i really only have a few real friends. i've always been pretty independant.. kinda done my own thing, but after 16 months of very minimal "fun" its starting to wear on me..

i'm pretty sure it's just the sand talking

[Dieselmh]

Originally Posted by mantis

I have no friends (big surprise, huh? ), I live 1300 miles away from my family, I work 60+ hours a week, but at least I see my wife and kids each night when I get home from work.

You not having friends has more to do with you being an asshole than it does your location!

[Boheefus]

always look on the bright side of life...trouble waking up is a sure sign of depression, ya'll need to talk it out and decide what it is that you really want outta life...maybe ya'll are real homebodies and need to be close to your friends/family, nothing wrong with that, but address the issues before they become problems

[mantis]

Originally Posted by Dieselmh

You not having friends has more to do with you being an asshole than it does your location!

Kinda what I was referring to in my post.

[Harvester of Sorrow]

Originally Posted by Entropy

Same story here except I was 18.

I got sick of it and decided to do something about it.

Within 3 years, I went from 8.50 an hour to 48,000 a year in Salary with a high school diploma. Desk job, all the benefits, vacation, blah blah blah...

It is ten years later and then some and I make quite a bit more now - but that set the foundation for me. Your future is a consequence of the present.

Figure out what you want, figure out a plan to do it, and then do it.

Friends will come along in the mix - that takes time.

Words of wisdom here