need PBB advice on my relationship

[ADD]

I am looking for honest advice here. So please try and keep the "fuck them both in the ass" comments to a minimum. I would appreciate it


Well i have already talked to all of my friends about it and have pretty much gotten the same answer from all of them (and its the answer i think i want, but i dont want to second guess myself), so i figured i would to to complete strangers on the internet to see what you guys would do.

Well....I am 22 years old and i have been with my current girlfriend now for 2 and a half years. She is the first serious girlfriend i have ever had, and the first person i have ever loved. She knows me better than anyone i know. For the first year and a half things have been going great. Granted we both make sacrafices but thats part of having a relationship. We both come from COMPLETE different backgrounds. He dad is an alcoholic (sp?) and her mom is pretty crazy too (but nice) and they divorced when she was young. Myself, I came from a very close,"leave it to beacer" type family. She is a typical city girl who loves shopping, always cares about how she looks, and really doesnt ever leave the city. Myself, i grew up in the mountains. I love to fish, camp, go wheeling, snowboarding....anything usually outdoors. Now because she loves me she will do these things with me but i feel like i am forcing her to do them.
Over the past few months i have really noticed that were dont have as much in common anymore than i prevously thought and i find myself growing farther apart from her. We spend 4-5 nights a week together and it is starting to make me feel like we're married and it is scaring the hell out of me.

I recently met another girl whom i have know for about 6 months. I met here at the winter fun fest back in Jan. She is my best friend/roomate's girlfriend's best friend (i know thats a lot to take in). She is an awesome girl who Loves wheeling (has her own mildly modded ford ranger....yeah sucks its a ford, but its better than a civic), is great at snowboarding and loves the same things i do. She is from the same town as me and we both went to the same high school. I recently found out the she likes me which sparked my interest, and now i find myself liking her A LOT. I had a party at my place last night (minus the girlfriend) and ended up really getting to know this new girl. We ended up staying the ight together (didnt fuck) and i can honestly say i loved it.

My situation is this...I do love my girlfriend, she has been nothing but great to me, but i can honestly say that i would never spend the rest of my life together with her. I am 22 years old, and i would like to get out a little bit and meet new people and not feel tied down at an early age, but the thought of telling this to my girlfriend makes me feel HORRIBLE!

what the fuck would you guys do? and flame away for me being a pussy

ADD

[Juztyn00]

grass is always greener on the other side of the fence... dump the old go with the new but know that you'll probably miss the old later...


edit:.... Pussy.

[Bradman]

Fuck the city bitch in the ass, the drop her for the cool chick.........then fuck HER in the ass

[Muddin]

Originally Posted by ADD

I am 22 years old, and i would like to get out a little bit and meet new people and not feel tied down at an early age, but the thought of telling this to my girlfriend makes me feel HORRIBLE!

Do you feel horrible over her being sad or is it because you'd be stepping outside of your comfort zone?

What's worse, dumping her and her moving on? Or, without her knowing, she being stuck with someone who's not in the relationship 100%?

[ADD]

I know i would feel sad, and i of course would miss her, but its mostly beacuse i really dont want to hurt her. She has NO idea that i have been feeling this way, and as far as she is concerned, the relationship is fine

[f250crawler]

Pussy


Dump her and go for the chick that likes wheelin.

[Muddin]

Originally Posted by ADD

I know i would feel sad, and i of course would miss her, but its mostly beacuse i really dont want to hurt her. She has NO idea that i have been feeling this way, and as far as she is concerned, the relationship is fine

I'll bet she does know.

You'll hurt her more by pissing away her time when she could be with someone who is more than just comfortable with her.

[ADD]

yeah....i know you're right. it just sucks having to hurt someone you care about. Thank you very much for the advice. I really do appreciate it.

and yeah, i know.....I'm a fuckin pussy!

[ADD]

Originally Posted by f250crawler

Pussy


Dump her and go for the chick that likes wheelin.

believe me......this is a huge factor that is weighing in on the side of the other girl

[f250crawler]

Originally Posted by ADD

believe me......this is a huge factor that is weighing in on the side of the other girl

If a girl doesn't like wheelin, hunting, guns, or camping shes only good for a fawk...

If she likes any one of those four things then I will consider dating her.

[Muddin]

Originally Posted by f250crawler

If she likes any one of those four things then I will consider dating her.

Oh, are you a prize or something?

[ADD]

yeah. the "cool" chick likes all of those.

The gf only does them because i like them. and btw....the sex like with the current gf has almost all but dies, and its not because of her. I would rather beat off or sleep them have sex now. Thats pretty bad huh?

[f250crawler]

Originally Posted by Muddin

Oh, are you a prize or something?

No but I like to choose who I date

[f250crawler]

Originally Posted by ADD

The gf only does them because i like them. and btw....the sex like with the current gf has almost all but dies, and its not because of her. I would rather beat off or sleep them have sex now. Thats pretty bad huh?

I don't think gawd could help you

[Muddin]

Originally Posted by ADD

yeah. the "cool" chick likes all of those.

The gf only does them because i like them. and btw....the sex like with the current gf has almost all but dies, and its not because of her. I would rather beat off or sleep them have sex now. Thats pretty bad huh?

You're talking yourself into breaking up with her. So quit pussin around and break up with her.

Originally Posted by f250crawler

No but I like to choose who I pay

Fixed

[f250crawler]

Originally Posted by Muddin

Fixed

Hey I gave it a reach around before I finished

[ADD]

it seems that everyone who i have told my situation to agrees with you guys. And yes i am trying to talk myself into it because i think thats what i want. shit! damn women! you cant live with them, and you cant kill them

[gotmuddy]

Originally Posted by ADD

We spend 4-5 nights a week together and it is starting to make me feel like we're married and it is scaring the hell out of me.

Then you obviously dont love her. Quit being a pussy and break up with her. My wife and I have spent 6-7 days a week together for the past 6 years, she is my best friend and the love of my life. If your scared of spending time with her then dump her

Originally Posted by ADD

yeah. the "cool" chick likes all of those.

The gf only does them because i like them. and btw....the sex like with the current gf has almost all but dies, and its not because of her. I would rather beat off or sleep them have sex now. Thats pretty bad huh?

My wife is a country girl, but was never "exposed" to wheeling. It has taken her years to finaly start enjoying camping and riding 4-wheelers. About the sex thing...welcome to marriage. I am the same way, but when we do it the secks still kicks ass 95% of the time.

[withamc]

Send her a link to this thread

[Proeliator]

If you need PBB advice on your relationship thats your #1 sign that its completely fawked

[ADD]

hahahahahahahahahahahahah..........yeah, thats the best advice i have heard so far

[cdarthvader]

Pussy if you don't dump the g/f and go after the wheelin chic, give the PBB her number. I'm sure there are plenty of us on the board who would take the chance.

[f250crawler]

You guys/muddin are slackin...


Where the fawk are the pics? Now or band

[Kim~]

I, personally, would not want to be with someone who was just "passing time" with me. You are being very immature by not talking about this with her. However, you are only 22--so we can't expect too much.

She is TRYING to be the person that you want her to be, and she is probably not as happy as she could be because of it. People who change who they are to make someone else happy, will eventually snap, because it is going against thier nature. It's pretty obvious that you two aren't destined for one another, and there is nothing wrong with that.

It would be wrong for you to leave her for "something better". That is not nice, and I would recommend that if (or should I say when) you break up with her...you wait a bit before you go persuing another girl. You seem to be concerned about hurting your girlfriend, so I think that would be a polite thing to do. Just treat her how you would want to be treated, and you will guide yourself.

You need to let her go. She is sitting around thinking that everything is fine, and maybe even thinking you two may get married one day. Girls tend to want to settle down at a younger age than men...let her move on with her life, and you move on as well. If you treat her respectfully, handle this properly (do not step out on her) if you really do care about her, maybe one day you can be friends.

I do not envy your predicament. I have been there before. It's terribly difficult. Good luck.

[surveyboy]

Originally Posted by Proeliator

If you need PBB advice on your relationship thats your #1 sign that its completely fawked

hey, that's not totally true......


shit, it is isn't it???


dude, you know what you want to do. and trust me, its not easy to nut up and pull that trigger and say those words. but, you'll be doing her a favor by telling her how you feel vs. lying to her and yourself.