Originally Posted by RaginCaucasian
It's time for me to try this again. I've been wanting to quit for a few years now, or at least get it under control. I just don't want to have that urge to always revolve my life around drinking. I'll admit though that there is still a part of me that doesn't want to quit, and it's a voice that tends to win the argument. Especially when I'm alone, bored, working on my buggy, etc. I've never been one to drink anything but beer, but I've been drinking a lot of it for at least 10-12 years. I honestly don't know when I started drinking on a daily basis, but for a while now I've been putting down at least 6-12 per night and 12-18 on most weekends. Occasionally, I will go for a day without a drop, but always go right back to it the next day.
Sad thing is I was diagnosed with gout at the age of 28. It's getting so bad that my foot constantly is stiff or hurting, and I have a big enough lump on the side of my foot that it's hard to put on some shoes. I used to be extremely active and fairly fit, but since I've gone down this path, my health is obviously deteriorating quickly. I'm up to 203 lbs from 165 lbs and get winded just walking up some stairs. My motivation to do anything is gone, especially when all my play money goes toward beer only.
I'm sure it's been covered, but too hard to go back and read this many pages.
- Does anyone else get extremely hungry when trying to quit? How did you deal with the hunger?
- Did anyone lose weight quickly by just quitting beer? I figure I'm taking in 1200+ calories on average on a daily basis in beer alone. I really don't eat that badly aside from my other addiction to hot wings.
EDIT: I've posted in this thread in the past and mentioned that I need to do this for my wife. My drinking has long been a struggle between us, and we recently found out that we can't have children on top of it. We've spent a ton of money on treatments and IVF ($30K+) just to finally be told this. We have no idea where we are going to go from here, whether it be adoption, embryo adoption, egg donor, or say screw it and do nothing all but live our lives. I do know that finding this out has been one of the biggest obstacles we have encountered, and until I can get my shit under control, I don't think we'll ever really know which direction to go.
First off, some people can gain control of drinking after realizing they have a problem. Many more cannot. Based on what you have provided here, it seems pretty clear you have a problem and you acknowledge it. People that don't have a problem, don't have to fight an urge to drink even when they don't want to.
Second, have you been honest with your doctor about your alcohol consumption? I lied straight up to my doctors for years. I have a heavy scientific background, so with the exception of my personal doctor who knows this, I was actually able to manipulate doctors into thinking I was suffering from other issues that weren't related to my excessive alcohol consumption, when they really were. Because I knew if I was honest, they would tell me I have to quit. Gout and excessive alcohol consumption are definitely correlated. Food for thought.
As for getting hungry when quitting, yes. You pointed it out yourself. Heavy drinkers obtain most of their daily caloric intake from alcohol. Instead of that extra 1200+ calories a day, there is suddenly a void. I was super hungry for weeks after quitting, but my diet/hunger has since normalized out. That is likely what causes the hunger spike.
I relapsed 4 times in the last 7 months, each time was only a handful of days before I straightened out again. However, prior to this, I was drinking anywhere from a pint to a fifth of rum every day (depending on if it was a worknight or a weekend) for probably a year straight.
By cutting alcohol, hopping on the keto diet (mostly eat meat and veggies), and doing ZERO exercise, I lost 52 lbs in six months. I am still overweight, but I can jog up flights of stairs that used to wind me just walking.
Lastly, you have to do this for yourself first. Anyone or anything else is secondary. I quit for someone else and that someone eventually decided I wasn't an alcoholic and I could drink. Because I was quitting for her, it was no trouble to go right back to it. And guess what, she became an alcoholic too in the process.
Trying to quit for someone else never works in my own experience, and that of others I know.
If you really want it, its all on you. And we in this thread are here to help with the process if that is what you really want. But you are taking the steps in the right direction.