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Old 12-23-2014, 09:02 AM   #101 (permalink)
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if you're still drinking like a dish with all the shit that is happening in your life, you're going to find out that booze is not the coping mechanism you think it is.
You can't tell someone that, they have to realize it for themselves.
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F'ing autocorrect. I meant "fish", but you are correct.


When I was a young man, my dad told me, "Son, I know a lot of people who drink a lot of alcohol, and a lot of people with drinking problems. Most of the people who have drinking problems are the ones who started drinking a lot because they have other problems. It's all fun to go out and have a beer or ten, but when you've got a problem in your life, that's the time not to drink." He was right.
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Woke up with another headache but other than that feel good. Stayed busy outside today since it stopepd raining. Today is Sunday and it officially marks the first weekend that I can remember in years I didn't get wasted. New years is going to be interesting but I'll have a couple weeks sober at that point so should be good.
I won't lie to you. The first New Year's Eve without a major party is sort of a bitch. My last huge New Year's bender was NYE 2010.

Four years later, I don't miss it.
My wife didn't like me being the "funny drunk" and me passing out on the floor.
She jumps my bones now. I'd rather have the secks than teh booze.


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Ok, thanks guys; I'm gonna make it.

When I wrote my previous message, I was on the back porch, the sky cleared, the sun shown through, I was lighting a charcoal fire for grilled pizza, and I wanted a beer BAD. So...


I went and got some O'Doul's.

I hope that's not cheating, and they're pretty nasty, but it worked. All the familiar sensations of holding the bottle and taking a swig was enough; halfway through the bottle and I knew I was going to be ok. Sober after dinner for the first time in a looong while.

Cheers all,

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Cheers--you can do it!
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Old 12-23-2014, 10:24 AM   #104 (permalink)
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You can't tell someone that, they have to realize it for themselves.
Absolutely, you have to realize it yourself and then "make the commitment" to stop.
If you don't, you'll go back to drinking.
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Cheers--you can do it!


Thanks man.

This really is weird and amazing. I never admitted to *anyone* that I was starting to realize I had a problem. Over the years, my wife bought me a beer fridge, friends/family out of town always made sure they had "my" brand of beer on hand, etc. Everyone was like, "That's just Curtis."

Somehow, this thread got through to me.
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Absolutely, you have to realize it yourself and then "make the commitment" to stop.
If you don't, you'll go back to drinking.
I'm gonna try to keep it to a minimum, just a few drinks every now and then, no more getting trashed. After 2 weeks, I'll have a few glasses of nice whiskey for christmas, but I'll keep it to a few, not 10, haha I think I can do that, now that I'm consciously thinking about it. We'll see how it goes. I'm actually doing pretty darn good. I feel good, and I don't really feel the urge at all.
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Thanks man.

This really is weird and amazing. I never admitted to *anyone* that I was starting to realize I had a problem. Over the years, my wife bought me a beer fridge, friends/family out of town always made sure they had "my" brand of beer on hand, etc. Everyone was like, "That's just Curtis."

Somehow, this thread got through to me.
So, I take it "the light bulb turned on" ?
Congrats on making your decision.
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Yesterday's "drink" count:

2 "Club soda & bitters" on the rocks (instead of a martini on the rocks)
3 O'Doul's Ambers (instead of 6-10+ beers)

Trying to stay grounded and remember that I'm still a total newb at this.
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I'm gonna try to keep it to a minimum, just a few drinks every now and then, no more getting trashed. After 2 weeks, I'll have a few glasses of nice whiskey for christmas, but I'll keep it to a few, not 10, haha
I sincerely wish you luck with that, as it generally doesn't work out for the huge majority of people.
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So, I take it "the light bulb turned on" ?
Congrats on making your decision.
It did.

Trying hard to make sure it *stays* on. I'm still pretty scared and know I could easily and quickly go back to my old ways/habits.

You wouldn't believe how nervous I was when I first posted in here that I was going to try to stop. I think I stared at the screen for a full 10 minutes before hitting the submit button.
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It did.

Trying hard to make sure it *stays* on. I'm still pretty scared and know I could easily and quickly go back to my old ways/habits.

You wouldn't believe how nervous I was when I first posted in here that I was going to try to stop. I think I stared at the screen for a full 10 minutes before hitting the submit button.
Just take it one day at a time. Relax and enjoy life. Before I stopped I couldn't imagine life without alcohol. Now I look back and realize that fear was completely imaginary. I really enjoy being sober.
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one thing i always wondered is if you drink a lot daily do you still have hang overs the next day? or does your body just get used to it. i rarely ever drink, maybe once every other year. about a month ago i decided to drink a whole bunch of vodka out of bordem on saturday and felt like crap til like 5pm on sunday. kinda sucked too cause i had a bunch of house stuff to do
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one thing i always wondered is if you drink a lot daily do you still have hang overs the next day? or does your body just get used to it. i rarely ever drink, maybe once every other year. about a month ago i decided to drink a whole bunch of vodka out of bordem on saturday and felt like crap til like 5pm on sunday. kinda sucked too cause i had a bunch of house stuff to do
Drinking every day didn't stop me from having hangovers. I drank so much the hangover usually didn't start until about 10am though.
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I'm a few days ahead of you, this evening it will be day (night) 7. For me it is/was whisky, 1/2 a bottle or more every night, easy. I'd drink it like it was water. I started having panic attacks in the afternoons... and they were getting worse. So I decided to quit. Or at least stop for a while to see if that was indeed what's causing the panic attacks. But now that I've stopped, even for the 1st week, it feels good. It's actually easier than I thought. ... lets hope it stays that way

I'm having more trouble getting to sleep now, but once I actually do fall asleep it seems to be better sleep. I do feel a whole lot better during the day. A little depressed at night, but so far it's not bad.

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I'm gonna try to keep it to a minimum, just a few drinks every now and then, no more getting trashed. After 2 weeks, I'll have a few glasses of nice whiskey for christmas, but I'll keep it to a few, not 10, haha I think I can do that, now that I'm consciously thinking about it. We'll see how it goes. I'm actually doing pretty darn good. I feel good, and I don't really feel the urge at all.
Giving up?
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Giving up?
I wasn't sure if I should ask or not.

danielbuck, you still dry??

And how about the OP?
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I wasn't sure if I should ask or not.

danielbuck, you still dry??

And how about the OP?
I'm no expert on sobriety by any stretch of the imagination, but I figure that you either quit, or you don't.

Best I can figure from my bank records, today is day 71 for me. If that really means anything or not!
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Giving up?
Nope. Not giving up at all. I've not had a drop. And it's been pretty easy actually.

My main reason for stopping was to see if that was causing my panic attacks, and it seems to be the case. I've not had even a hint of a panic attack in the passed week and a half. Not even a fast heart rate during the day. I'm quite happy about that! And I want to keep it that way. So I'm going to continue to refrain from drinking nightly. Because that was clearly the cause.

I've not had the urge to drink in the evenings, even with beer in the fridge and scotch in the cabinet.

But I'd like to see if I can enjoy a few drinks with friends on special occasions. I'm pretty confident that I can do that. I'll have a few pours of nice whiskey for christmas, and see how it goes. I'll report back for sure

I feel great, no panic attacks, no pounding heart, none of that. And I want to keep it that way. No way I can go back to drinking every day, I honestly don't want to. And don't feel the urge to.

maybe I'm playing with fire?? I don't think I am, but we'll see. I'll report back after christmas. If I can enjoy a few drinks a few times a year, I'd like to do that. if I can't, then I need to reevaluate.
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maybe I'm playing with fire?? I don't think I am, but we'll see.
I don't know how old you are, but if I had a nickle for every time I've heard that over the years.....

I sincerely wish you luck!!!
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I'm gonna try to keep it to a minimum, just a few drinks every now and then, no more getting trashed. After 2 weeks, I'll have a few glasses of nice whiskey for christmas, but I'll keep it to a few, not 10, haha I think I can do that, now that I'm consciously thinking about it. We'll see how it goes. I'm actually doing pretty darn good. I feel good, and I don't really feel the urge at all.
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I sincerely wish you luck with that, as it generally doesn't work out for the huge majority of people.
This is VERY true.

IMHO, it takes longer to make the mental and lifestyle changes necessary to not fall back off the wagon. "A few" easily turns into 4 or 5 which suddenly jumps to 10. Then you're drinking more than you ever did in the first place.

I don't think SDCJ is being pessimistic--it's just something a LOT of people think they can do and can't. It's an oft-repeated tale.
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I don't know how old you are, but if I had a nickle for every time I've heard that over the years.....

I sincerely wish you luck!!!
I'm 31. I've never tried to stop or back off from drinking before, have never really even thought about it before. I've joked about it, but never seriously thought about it.

As for my christmas experiment, I'll see how it goes. Will report back.
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Best I can figure from my bank records, today is day 71 for me. If that really means anything or not!


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one thing i always wondered is if you drink a lot daily do you still have hang overs the next day? or does your body just get used to it. i rarely ever drink, maybe once every other year. about a month ago i decided to drink a whole bunch of vodka out of bordem on saturday and felt like crap til like 5pm on sunday. kinda sucked too cause i had a bunch of house stuff to do
I'll bet a lot of us were/are a lot more high-functioning than you'd think. Kind of hard to explain. In my case, I was/am that guy that always got as much done as everyone else, but who also always had a beer in his hand.
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Yep- My thinking it's an all or nothing type deal. Going from drinking every night to 3 nights a week is certainly an improvement; however, you are much more likely to still fall back to old habits.

I'm pretty much a daily drinker- but I justify it because work the 8-5 grind and don't have "bad" hangovers. That said- I'm just tired of it and wouldn't mind getting parts of myself back like memory issues or just being as mentally sharp. Plus, like someone mentioned there are reasons people quit drinking. Not as many good reasons people have too drink. I was going to quit, but shitty things just happen in my life and I use it as a crutch.
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Memory is been a big one and its from drinking. Part of all this may or may not stem from my ptsd I don't know. Already in a weeks time I find myself remembering little things better. It's really eye opening for me. Don't get me wrong I'm getting the craving because I fawking love beer and whiskey. Stay the course I supoose.
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