Originally Posted by NERVEman
i will not date anyone on rx drugs or that lives on otc drugs as there are many out there not living that choice lifestyle. i want to know the person i am with is who she is, not an illusion created by anti depressants, anti anxiety or sleep pills.
yes, many on here are drugged to the hilt as are many spouses and gf's of pbb members, but you have a choice to make and if you choose a rx drug user, it will not lessen over time, it will accumulate to cope with all her baggage.
you are not 20, use the brain you have and make the right but hard decision.
as you are not a pill popper of rx or otc drugs, good luck dealing with her.
I did this. I picked the right one. No drugs at all, everything seemed perfect. Everyone adored her. Turns out she has boderline personality disorder and possibly bi polar. No meds. She hid from me for almost 3 years. I was married to her for 10 before she ran off with some other guy and left me with her kids.
Nobody believed she had issues except me and the kids. But her mom has it, I later found out. Looks like her daughter does too.
Now finally ending up in the hospital after a suicide attempt other people are starting to see a crack in the shell she worked so hard to form.
I am very aware of my choices, I stayed with her because she was basically a retarded child. Who would abandon someone like that? I made a promise to God and I stuck to it.
She left me, so no guilt here.
There are lots of widowed people in my age range. Not all from drugs.
So even when they look ok, that doesn't mean they are.
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Originally Posted by s10er8
Don't think you are getting the advice from people that don't know wtf they are talking about. Some of us have goddamned lived it. Did we listen? Fuck no and still paying for it
This is exactly what I was looking for. I was on the fence. I have lived it too. The drugs are a new spin for me. They are something I cannot understand or begin to comprehend.
You know, I would post pics, but you guys have me breaking up with her so it is now illegal.
I don't think I could ever do that to someone without consent, sorry.