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Old 07-03-2019, 02:14 PM   #101 (permalink)
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The work comp dr sent me to some ridiculously half assed PT and all she did was fuck me up so bad at the first appointment that I could hardly walk for a week after so I never went back.
Yes, because those are likely muscles that havent been used, or are damaged. You're not going to get better without PT.

Find a different doctor, schedule a few appointments, and pay the $35-$50/visit so you're not limping around with a cane when you're 45.
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Old 07-03-2019, 02:24 PM   #103 (permalink)
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Yes, because those are likely muscles that havent been used, or are damaged. You're not going to get better without PT.

Find a different doctor, schedule a few appointments, and pay the $35-$50/visit so you're not limping around with a cane when you're 45.
The problem is I'm legally not aloud to go to another dr unless the WC approves it. I've tried, theres a big enough paper trail with this case that i cant go anywhere without getting denied. Unless i lie about the injury but then If I get fucked by some PT I go to and then my court case gets turned around on me and now I get fucked.

Im gonna do a home routine for now. I got people to help me, I already have a fuckin cane. My right leg doesn't respond every once in awhile so they gave me one.

This insurance company has fucked me over so many times its ridiculous how does anybody get treated?? My attorney is good and my surgeon is backing me saying they have "violated my medical rights". Hands down i have the best back surgeon in Monterey county. Dudes cool as fuck, has a old defender he drives to work with no top even if its raining.


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Off topic - but just go see a physical therapist about exercises that can actually benefit you. Situps might work for one muscle group, but you don't want to strengthen one muscle group while leaving another unused.
This. Situps can actually push a bulging disk even further into the nerve root. I have 2 bulging disks and L4 and L5. Did 12 weeks of PT here.
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This. Situps can actually push a bulging disk even further into the nerve root. I have 2 bulging disks and L4 and L5. Did 12 weeks of PT here.
Thanks, I'm gonna go see my old PT from when I split my femur. He's cool he can give me some information to help.
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Pay me well enough and I'll stand around telling you how to do things right. At least it won't have to be done again.
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Old 07-03-2019, 02:41 PM   #107 (permalink)
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Pay me well enough and I'll stand around telling you how to do things right. At least it won't have to be done again.
pfft hes a welder, hes got this
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Ill start today, thanks for the help. If this makes me feel better i owe you a cold one or 30.

Ive got 2 herniated discs, L4/L5 and L5/S1 + 3 crushed nerve roots. Id dig up my mri but cba rn. discs have a 8cm bulge into my spinal cord or whatever.

Met a lady butch today that had the same surgery i'm about to have. cool ass chick for being a butch. Made a new friend lol
Based on the extent of the injury, I wouldn't dp full sit-ups, just crunches where you hold the position for 5 seconds, start with 2 sets of 5, then go to 3 sets, then add one crunch to each set.

Are you having fusion or microdisectomy surgery?

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Are you having fusion or microdisectomy surgery?
microdisectomy first, If it doesn't heal like its supposed to then Ill have to get fused. That's the scarier part to me. id rather someone just scrape some messed up tissue out of my back than get 6 screws.
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microdisectomy first, If it doesn't heal like its supposed to then Ill have to get fused. That's the scarier part to me. id rather someone just scrape some messed up tissue out of my back than get 6 screws.
Yes, micro is better, though even once healed you will have to treat it as having a bad back, and stick to an exercise/core strengthening regime to avoid fusion. Know of a few who had it done and thought they were as good as knew, and found out the hard way they weren't, even with exercise and core strengthening.
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The problem is I'm legally not aloud to go to another dr unless the WC approves it. I've tried, theres a big enough paper trail with this case that i cant go anywhere without getting denied. Unless i lie about the injury but then If I get fucked by some PT I go to and then my court case gets turned around on me and now I get fucked.

Im gonna do a home routine for now. I got people to help me, I already have a fuckin cane. My right leg doesn't respond every once in awhile so they gave me one.

This insurance company has fucked me over so many times its ridiculous how does anybody get treated?? My attorney is good and my surgeon is backing me saying they have "violated my medical rights". Hands down i have the best back surgeon in Monterey county. Dudes cool as fuck, has a old defender he drives to work with no top even if its raining.


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If your lawyers so good then get him to get you another Dr., its totally within your right if the treatment is sub par.
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The work comp dr sent me to some ridiculously half assed PT and all she did was fuck me up so bad at the first appointment that I could hardly walk for a week after so I never went back.
Likely had no clue as to the extent of the injury, and just went by the book, have been sent to one like that, and walked out after he showed me the first exercise he told me to do. PT's are like any other professions, i.e., average, cream of the crop, or bottom feeders, and unfortunately the bottom feeders are often the ones WC and insurance companies send you to first.

The next time you end up worse from a PT, go to the hospital, ER bills usually gets the attention of the insurance companies rather quickly.

If you haven't tried it yet, you might try laying on the floor and putting your legs on the couch or recliner, so that you are in a sitting position, the legs lifted like that will provide a type of traction for the lower back.
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My wife died 6 months ago. I've started dating. I can't keep myself locked away, wallowing in my misery. My wife would be really pissed if I did. It's really damn weird after being with the same person for 18 years.

I casually mentioned it to my adult daughter and she let me know that she wanted me to take care of myself and find some happiness, but that she wasn't quite ready to talk about it yet.
Wow, we're in very nearly the same boat, right down to the adult daughter not wanting to be involved yet.
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Wow, we're in very nearly the same boat, right down to the adult daughter not wanting to be involved yet.
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My wife died 6 months ago. I've started dating. I can't keep myself locked away, wallowing in my misery. My wife would be really pissed if I did. It's really damn weird after being with the same person for 18 years.

I casually mentioned it to my adult daughter and she let me know that she wanted me to take care of myself and find some happiness, but that she wasn't quite ready to talk about it yet.
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If your lawyers so good then get him to get you another Dr., its totally within your right if the treatment is sub par.
I got all the way down to the end of the line, and then the surgerey got denied.
Once it gets denied It has to go through a certain legal process after that point depending on if an appeal passes or not. My appeal did not pass, The utilization review from the insurance company has denied every single thing from the beginning of this case making it take 2x the time because I have to re-request something after it gets denied. also making it alot easier for my attorney to build a case against them.

But for surgery if your appeal fails then you go to a special Dr that evaluates you and decides your fate.
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I got all the way down to the end of the line, and then the surgerey got denied.
Once it gets denied It has to go through a certain legal process after that point depending on if an appeal passes or not. My appeal did not pass, The utilization review from the insurance company has denied every single thing from the beginning of this case making it take 2x the time because I have to re-request something after it gets denied. also making it alot easier for my attorney to build a case against them.

But for surgery if your appeal fails then you go to a special Dr that evaluates you and decides your fate.
WC companies are scum! It's their job to deny everything, I had an agent tell me that once when my knee was fawked. He told me a lot as his company was being bought out and he was losing his job so he had some animosity towards the new bigger company, I'm glad he had the decency to enlighten me, it made it easier for me.
Good luck and hang in there.
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marital bliss?

My wife gave me an ultimatum to go to counseling about drinking she told me I was an alcoholic? I went to a chemical dependency center and was interviewed and it was decided that I did have a drinking problem (and I lied on some of the questions) so I enrolled and started treatment, I went every day from 5:00 to 9:00 after work and kept this up for 2 months then it came down to 4 nights per week it was scary at first but as I learned more about it that gave me the tools to deal with it. Well after about a month I came into work at 6:00 am as always and a guy came up to me at the door and served me divorce papers, needless to say she was going to get rid of me whether I went to treatment or not. I went through a year of treatment and have been 100% sober for 10 years now.
The divorce was nasty as heck and in the end it cost me about a million dollars but she is gone. My point here is we had a 6 year old daughter who my EX drug into the divorce and she has had problems every since, my words to you is make sure YOU know where you stand in your marriage, if your wife wants to get rid of you like mine there is little you can do save things and your mush better off getting out! If you do truly still love each other it can be saved through some marriage counseling and LOTS of communication and honesty. If its worth saving then go that route, if not then get out fast and if possible then petition for custody of your boy, a goofy female raising a child alone does the child absolutely NO GOOD!!!!
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