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Old 05-11-2018, 02:06 PM   #101 (permalink)
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Hoarder here with extreme OCD, can't stand the thought of throwing away something that's still good, or that I might be able to use one day. It causes me extreme emotional distress.

Also get very sentimentally attached to my possessions and would much rather fix something than toss it. If I lose something of mine or break it, I'll lose sleep over it for days. Same goes for if I see something in the garbage that I'm unable to pick up or simply don't have room for, especially if it's older stuff.

With that said, I'm pretty organized with my hoard, for the most part. Digging through a pile of junk looking for something just pisses me off, so my piles are very organized! One of my friends called me "the neatest pack rat" he'd ever seen LOL.

But everything I keep could potentially be used again someday or re-purposed for something else, the hoarders that keep old food, dirty diapers, etc. never made sense to me.
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My aunt is a real deal Horder... Just buys stuff... Crazy amounts of it. Presents she forgets about... Shit on sale... You name it. She sleeps in a chair because her bedroom is literally packed floor to ceiling. It comes down to... They see their "stuff" as a part of them. You cannot fix that. Sure... You get asshurt with whoever and go forcefully clean out their mess... But they are going to hate you for it and collect the stuff again. Only real way to "fix" them is for them to realize they are "broken" and want to change. Just like any other addiction. Food, drugs, alcohol, stuff... Etc. Until that happens there is not a lot you can do. If they are a danger to themselves have them committed.



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Hoarder here with extreme OCD, can't stand the thought of throwing away something that's still good, or that I might be able to use one day. It causes me extreme emotional distress.

Also get very sentimentally attached to my possessions and would much rather fix something than toss it. If I lose something of mine or break it, I'll lose sleep over it for days. Same goes for if I see something in the garbage that I'm unable to pick up or simply don't have room for, especially if it's older stuff.

With that said, I'm pretty organized with my hoard, for the most part. Digging through a pile of junk looking for something just pisses me off, so my piles are very organized! One of my friends called me "the neatest pack rat" he'd ever seen LOL.

But everything I keep could potentially be used again someday or re-purposed for something else, the hoarders that keep old food, dirty diapers, etc. never made sense to me.
Kinda like a funtioning alcoholic... An alcoholic non the less. It is good to be organized but to be that shaken up by "stuff" is not good.
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Old 08-23-2018, 11:39 AM   #103 (permalink)
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Bumping this thread again,

Anyone want a free oak TV stand that was off loaded into my new shed? Apparently it can't fit through the front door of its owners home so now it's my problem but not for long
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Old 08-23-2018, 12:18 PM   #104 (permalink)
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Bumping this thread again,

Anyone want a free oak TV stand that was off loaded into my new shed? Apparently it can't fit through the front door of its owners home so now it's my problem but not for long
Burn it. Then it B GONE!
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Old 08-23-2018, 04:30 PM   #105 (permalink)
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Bumping this thread again,

Anyone want a free oak TV stand that was off loaded into my new shed? Apparently it can't fit through the front door of its owners home so now it's my problem but not for long
Did you really bump a 3 month old thread about hoarding to try and give something away to one of the hoarders? That's methed up!
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Old 08-23-2018, 04:46 PM   #106 (permalink)
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Did you really bump a 3 month old thread about hoarding to try and give something away to one of the hoarders? That's methed up!
There are a lot of people here that don't think they have a problem
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There are a lot of people here that don't think they have a problem
Yeah well maybe we just like acquiring stuff...

Just had these 4 bad boys dropped off next to our shop. Gonna be a hoarders paradise after I'm done building my storage facility...

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40' long high cube containers. Planning on setting them up on 2' high 2' wide 6' long barrier blocks and putting two end to end 50' apart from each other and then putting a roof over the middle for vehicle storage.
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Yeah well maybe we just like acquiring stuff...

Just had these 4 bad boys dropped off next to our shop. Gonna be a hoarders paradise after I'm done building my storage facility...

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40' long high cube containers. Planning on setting them up on 2' high 2' wide 6' long barrier blocks and putting two end to end 50' apart from each other and then putting a roof over the middle for vehicle storage.
Start a build thread, sounds like it will be cool.
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Old 08-23-2018, 05:28 PM   #109 (permalink)
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Start a build thread, sounds like it will be cool.
When I get going on it really well I'll post something up! I gotta get some equipment worked over a bit and move some dirt for a pad before I get too gung-ho on it.
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So what do you guys do if you have a good friend who is like this, but it's making you not want to be friends with them anymore...?

Specifically, they have a problem, they know they have a problem, but they frequently bend your ear trying to drag you into their fantasy world where it's not actually their fault and they just can't understand why things don't get better on their own, or they're asking for you to come up with a plan to help them, having zero intention to follow through and change.

Do you grit your teeth and just nod and smile? Tell them to shut the fuck up and stop trying to get you to validate their bullshit? Stop being friends with them and move on with your own life?

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Old 08-23-2018, 09:34 PM   #111 (permalink)
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Bumping this thread again,

Anyone want a free oak TV stand that was off loaded into my new shed? Apparently it can't fit through the front door of its owners home so now it's my problem but not for long
Sounds like you got some firewood in your wood shed.
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Old 08-24-2018, 03:09 AM   #112 (permalink)
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I figured out hoarding is/was amplified as a thought processes handed down from parents of the great depression era as the last concept known as to where it was "very", useful in the US. As newer fangled items were developed and costly, it was/is hard to let the concept go. While also grasping at the 'how dose it work/ what does it mean, or does it have potential value, or can it have parts for fixing another item.
I remember my dad talking about using the first Superman comics as fire-starters growing up.
We had a week or 2 to buy a home an move my dad so I watched his heart break as we tossed a lot of stuff. The VHS tapes of old movies seemed to hit the hardest. just sharing.
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Old 08-24-2018, 04:51 AM   #113 (permalink)
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Stop trying to save your dad.
People are what they are. You won't change them.
Accept what he is.
Love the good parts.
Ignore this shit.

It's only pissing you off so much because you know you are "just like your father". How is your garage / cellar / closet / drawer of random shit coming along? Shit starting to pile up?

Hows your paperwork? Organized in folders? In a certain spot at your organized workdesk?

Just saying

Make sure you don't copy this behaviour later in life.
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Old 08-24-2018, 06:02 AM   #114 (permalink)
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You guys should listen to this. The first few minutes are irrelevant but the last part explains a lot. Basically there is now a legal definition for hoarding and there are some specific requirements that must be met to be labeled a hoarder. If you meet those requirements you can get help for it and have it paid by insurance. After listening to it I realized most everyone I thought was a hoarder and most of the people in this thread are not hoarders by the legal definition but rather just extreme collectors of stuff. Those that are true hoarders have a true psychological issue that needs attention.

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Old 08-24-2018, 06:47 AM   #115 (permalink)
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I know a guy that likely meets the "legal" definition. He's an interesting character. He worked in the oil field back in the day and was making good money. Bought a 10+ acre lot, had a house built and put up a huge quonset hut. Not long after he got settled in his wife passed away and he went off the deep end. He lost his job and decided that he was going to go into the buying abandoned storage unit game long before it was popular (this was back in the early 90's). His idea was to resell the furniture as a way to make money. At first he did ok, but then he got tired of throwing away all the stuff he wasn't going to resell, so he decided he would start trying to sell it at yard sales. This is where things got bad. Now every time he'd buy a storage unit, the furniture would go to a storage warehouse that he sold it out of, and the rest would just get piled in his quonsite hut. He never had the yard sales, he just kept piling. He got worse and worse about letting anything go (other then the furniture) he filled the quonsite hut to the point you can barely walk through it, he filled his house, his garage and it flowed out into the yard. He brought home anything he thought had a value, yet he refused to sell any of it. It got so bad that a couple years ago the county declared his place a health hazard and forced him to clear the yard. He spent a bunch of money scrapping stuff that was good when he brought it home, yet he left it sitting in the weather until it was junk. He's now so bad that he can't hold a decent job because he starts hoarding everything he can at work and gets in fights when told to clean up his mess. On one hand I feel bad for him because I really think he has a mental problem, but then you talk to him and he comes off like he knows what he is doing, he just doesn't care and wants to do it anyway.
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Old 08-24-2018, 11:57 AM   #116 (permalink)
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wait 'til he dies and you get to organize/go through it all
Agree. You aren't going to change him. Don't make him an enemy. It will be your pile of shit to clean up one day though when he dies.
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So what do you guys do if you have a good friend who is like this, but it's making you not want to be friends with them anymore...?

Specifically, they have a problem, they know they have a problem, but they frequently bend your ear trying to drag you into their fantasy world where it's not actually their fault and they just can't understand why things don't get better on their own, or they're asking for you to come up with a plan to help them, having zero intention to follow through and change.

Do you grit your teeth and just nod and smile? Tell them to shut the fuck up and stop trying to get you to validate their bullshit? Stop being friends with them and move on with your own life?

If their hoarding bothered me to the point that I didn't want to be around them, then I would stop being friends with them. The point of having friends is that they are people that you want to be around.
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