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Today 04:37 PM
H8DWINGS
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Originally Posted by twitch57 View Post
Its amazing all the things I put off. That and the mundane stuff I would only do when drinking.

Gym might be a bit lonely but its great not having to wait for anything. Your right about how much time and money you save. Im thinking of doing the math on what I used to spend a week, put half in the bank and half towards tools ect like you did
Just wait until you have the money, won't spend it and think "you know the funny thing....X months ago if that was beer I'd spend that much on a Friday/party/camping trip/holiday weekend and now I'm too cheap to spend it."

Being at the gym is probably healthy mentally. You're productive, you'll find out who is there for more than just the "new year new me" phase and there are probably worse friends you could make. Plus it will make sure you're in bed at a reasonable hour.

I spent about 4+ hours replacing the brake booster on my XJ with the WJ one. So much for the "Oh this only takes 3-4 hours" because I've never flared a brake line and spent 4 hours taking my time thinking "you know...spending 4 horus in the garage and going to bed at 12:10am is just about the same as before. Difference is I got something done." I woke up around 5am. Yeah I was tired. Yeah I did it again the next night. Yeah I was glad I didn't spend it drinking beer and the $13 I spent at Harbor Freight is the same as buying a 6 pack of Voodoo Ranger IPA and the brake booster, and skill of doing a double flare CORRECTLY will last longer. It is now getting weird to think about doing stuff drinking beer. WAY more patience and focus along with "okay I'll pick this up tomorrow cuz I'm starting to get impatient/tired/frustrated" and knowing what I was doing when I came back to it. Jeep is still a POS but it's MY POS and when I sell it I probably won't care about the money I lost. I guess it is like my pet/plant/whatever it is people say to do when they quit an addiction and want to stay on track.
01-24-2020 11:20 PM
twitch57
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Originally Posted by H8DWINGS View Post
When you run out of things to do you will start finding new things to do, or you’ll chill out and relax on the couch and enjoy having everything done, or being able to say “I’ll get to that tomorrow” knowing you WILL get to it.

Gyms are lonely on Friday nights even in January when everyone is on a diet or trying to get back into shape. Probably because they’re out having drinks on the couch at home. I used that in my training to say the people I race against aren’t working when I am and that’s why I get better. People ask all the time where I find time to do stuff. It seems easy to have time when you’re not drinking for four hours at night and recovering for four more the next day. Hopefully I’ll get to pick and pull tomorrow. Spent $100 at harbor freight buying tools. That’s about 10 days of beer in a previous life and the tools might last more than one night. HA!
Its amazing all the things I put off. That and the mundane stuff I would only do when drinking.

Gym might be a bit lonely but its great not having to wait for anything. Your right about how much time and money you save. Im thinking of doing the math on what I used to spend a week, put half in the bank and half towards tools ect like you did
01-24-2020 09:43 PM
H8DWINGS
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Originally Posted by twitch57 View Post
Thanks for the support guys.

Tonights the first weekend clean. Had a half day at work. usually that would mean id have killed a six pack and would be thinking about whiskey by the time the wife got off at five.

Took the jeep out to the woods for some light wheeling, did some target shooting and relaxed. Knocked off a bunch of chores id been ignoring.

Running out of distractions so going to head to the gym here in a bit.

I figure I ll start by getting to 7 days, then 7 weeks, then 7 months.

reminds me of boot camp, just one more day and a wake up, over and over again.
When you run out of things to do you will start finding new things to do, or you’ll chill out and relax on the couch and enjoy having everything done, or being able to say “I’ll get to that tomorrow” knowing you WILL get to it.

Gyms are lonely on Friday nights even in January when everyone is on a diet or trying to get back into shape. Probably because they’re out having drinks on the couch at home. I used that in my training to say the people I race against aren’t working when I am and that’s why I get better. People ask all the time where I find time to do stuff. It seems easy to have time when you’re not drinking for four hours at night and recovering for four more the next day. Hopefully I’ll get to pick and pull tomorrow. Spent $100 at harbor freight buying tools. That’s about 10 days of beer in a previous life and the tools might last more than one night. HA!
01-24-2020 06:58 PM
SanDiegoCJ
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Originally Posted by ADD View Post
I survived a week in Cabo San Lucas. At an all inclusive resort for a work conference. Not gonna lie, it was a little hard the first 2 nights, but then it was like nothing again.

My business partner got so shit face drunk on night 2, and spent the entire night puking his guts out with his head in the toilet. (I got some great pics and video from it though). He slept the entire next day trying to recover, while I went to the workshops feeling great.
It was then that I realized I was making the right choice.

My next big hurdles will be my own bachelor party and wedding at the end of this year. Will see how it goes.
Monday was 4 months for me....

Congrats to everyone else who is still keeping on
You just proved to yourself that you don't need alcohol. No need to go backwards.
01-24-2020 06:18 PM
twitch57 Thanks for the support guys.

Tonights the first weekend clean. Had a half day at work. usually that would mean id have killed a six pack and would be thinking about whiskey by the time the wife got off at five.

Took the jeep out to the woods for some light wheeling, did some target shooting and relaxed. Knocked off a bunch of chores id been ignoring.

Running out of distractions so going to head to the gym here in a bit.

I figure I ll start by getting to 7 days, then 7 weeks, then 7 months.

reminds me of boot camp, just one more day and a wake up, over and over again.
01-24-2020 04:10 PM
muddeprived I gave up Rum a few weeks ago. I been drinking it for a good 4-5 years and it was vodka before that. It was pretty easy for me but I am struggling with fixing my gut. I believe all that liquor took a toll on my stomach and it's good bacteria. I have not had a good shit session in a very long time. I am also weak alot and got itchy skin which seem to be symptoms of a bad gut.

Popping some good quality probiotics and eating two Activia yogurts a day but not seeing much results yet.
01-24-2020 03:06 PM
H8DWINGS So if you just need something to do and didn't drink while welding just find something you enjoy doing, or might enjoy doing. Walk around the neighborhood. Change your oil. All the money you piss down the drain (like...actually literally and I wasn't trying to be funny/ironic) buying beer you could do oil changes, buy fuel and drive around exploring, stick in an envelope and buy yourself some new thing you'll put on a shelf in 2 months.

I'd personally just rather do it right the first time instead of doing it twice. Plus it would give me a reason to go see a buddy, and him a reason to get his stuff up to visit me and wheel.
01-24-2020 03:01 PM
Gslander
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Originally Posted by H8DWINGS View Post
@Gslander Lincoln or GTFO of here! Don't talk to me about that 120v Harbor Freight crap. 220V is the minimum real wheelers use to weld 3/16 and thicker. Especially perches for a Ford 9" under something as badass as a XJ.

I have access to welders of all types. Family owns the stuff. It's a lot about finding the time to get the skill to do it right, or hand it to a friend (or my brother in law) who have more experience about what they're doing to have it done right the first time. I run to relax. I picked it up prior to quitting drinking and it's helped me clear my head just going out and exercising for an hour. I do think welding might relax me in the same way because on my projects I could take my own time and not rush it. At the same time I could rush through it because I want to get it done and quit working on it.

As for the routine...yeah it's hard to break. Have a few beers after the kid goes to bed every night of the week, buy more on the way home the next day (or just start brewing to 'save money') and repeat the process doesn't change overnight. I was probably getting close to shitfaced every night and powering through the mornings and not sleeping in blah blah blah....still doesn't make it acceptable.
Lmao, love my hobart after I broke a Lincoln .

You are right though, everyone needs a 220v turned 75% of the way down that's the only way to do it!!! I hear you on the rushing, funny thing is i never drank when i did fabrication or working on the truck because the hack level and halfassery doubled with evrey drink!! I just hated having to coordinate schedules and asking people to help.me so I just picked up the metal hot glue gun and starting melting shit together.

Same here on the drinking, a 6pack of stout comes out to like damn near 12 light beers when I look back on it.
01-24-2020 02:45 PM
H8DWINGS @Gslander Lincoln or GTFO of here! Don't talk to me about that 120v Harbor Freight crap. 220V is the minimum real wheelers use to weld 3/16 and thicker. Especially perches for a Ford 9" under something as badass as a XJ.

I have access to welders of all types. Family owns the stuff. It's a lot about finding the time to get the skill to do it right, or hand it to a friend (or my brother in law) who have more experience about what they're doing to have it done right the first time. I run to relax. I picked it up prior to quitting drinking and it's helped me clear my head just going out and exercising for an hour. I do think welding might relax me in the same way because on my projects I could take my own time and not rush it. At the same time I could rush through it because I want to get it done and quit working on it.

As for the routine...yeah it's hard to break. Have a few beers after the kid goes to bed every night of the week, buy more on the way home the next day (or just start brewing to 'save money') and repeat the process doesn't change overnight. I was probably getting close to shitfaced every night and powering through the mornings and not sleeping in blah blah blah....still doesn't make it acceptable.
01-24-2020 12:58 PM
Gslander Thanks dudes!

I'm really glad and lucky I didnt get physically addicted to the stuff over the years, it was more breaking the "come home from work, have a few beers or a martini evreyday and get shitfaced on friday" routine.
@H8DWINGS just buy a Hobart 140, find a ton of scrap metal and teach yourself how to weld. You can do 99% of the work on a jeep with one, keep it flux core and watch some youtube and read on here. Stupid easy to weld and opens the world up to you, a rear axle swap on an XJ is like 4 components to weld on there. Plus I think it's very relaxing and clear your head as you have to focus on the task intently and the other stress going on in your head just kind of goes away.
01-24-2020 10:37 AM
H8DWINGS
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Originally Posted by twitch57 View Post
On my 5th night clear for me. Just got back from the gym and enjoying an ice water.

Here we go
Everyone has been there. Ride it through the weekend. The little accomplishments matter more and at some point, if you want to 100% quit forever, you won't even care about hitting the beer aisle and you'll see the giant waste of money people are all excited about and the incoming hangovers because it is (holiday weekend/reunion/day of the week) and you'll get a lot more done with free time you never had before.

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Had a few slip ups over the holidays. Drank a bottle of red wine, not on purpose, it was a long night and my damn wife and sister in law just keept topping it off. Realized at the end of the night that the empty bottle was all me, did not feel good the next day. Also had a glass of Champaign over news year and one last week when I got a job offer and told the company to F off cuz it sucked and I decided I was going to start a business. I really do not miss drinking, just the bitterness of the drinks and I miss beer. I do enjoy being sober at parties and functions, I feel more in the moment and present. I have lost 20lbs since october.
shit happens. None of us are perfect. I miss the taste of beer and the drunk feeling. I don't miss waking up and it's been so long I don't even remember the feeling. I was the sober one last Friday at the wife's party and realized how much I WOULD have drank at that party had I not been sober. Probably a solid 10 beers wondering why no one else is drinking with me...oh wait it's January and everyone is on a diet because the last 2 months have been a party.

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Originally Posted by ADD View Post
I survived a week in Cabo San Lucas. At an all inclusive resort for a work conference. Not gonna lie, it was a little hard the first 2 nights, but then it was like nothing again.

My business partner got so shit face drunk on night 2, and spent the entire night puking his guts out with his head in the toilet. (I got some great pics and video from it though). He slept the entire next day trying to recover, while I went to the workshops feeling great.
It was then that I realized I was making the right choice.

My next big hurdles will be my own bachelor party and wedding at the end of this year. Will see how it goes.
Monday was 4 months for me....

Congrats to everyone else who is still keeping on
Ah the "all inclusive" resort. Bottomless drinks and people get excited when they don't have to pay to drink. I'm now more excited about jeep parts and wheeling than I am about getting that new beer they don't mail out of state. Glad you were able to get the video and photos of the guy all shit faced. I don't miss those days. Prime example of "stealing happiness from tomorrow." Obviously when he controlled his drinking he didn't enjoy it and when he enjoyed his drinking he didn't control it.

Kudos to you for passing on the alcohol. At first it feels weird NOT to partake then it becomes weird when you think of how much these people partake and do it KNOWING they're going to the point of no return. AAAHHH my personal favorite...straight to the deep end with no end in sight. The good ol days of self inflicted pain lasting longer than the pleasure.

I laugh my ass off when my father in law, and brother in law tell me they don't get hangovers but lay on the couch for 4+ hours because "I'm tired" and it has nothing to do with the drinks last night.

If it is your own bachelor party why is it a problem? You're the one celebrating. "hey guys, I'm not drinking this weekend. Y'all can drink. I don't care. Just don't ask me why and don't offer me drinks." If they're your friends they'll understand. It's like saying "hey guys I'm going to smoke a fat bong load and if you don't like it you can stay home. It is my party not yours" or asking your friend NOT to smoke a fat bong load or snort cocaine off your best mans penis while he sleeps....although that would make for some good photos and videos.


EDIT: oh shit...the 20th passed so I'm at like 7 months. I'm looking forward to replacing the mirror on the jeep (smashed it wheeling because I can't read lines and don't know WTF I'm doing) maybe replacing the brake booster/master cylinder (it's an XJ thing. Tube buggies wouldn't understand. lol!) and maybe picking up an arm rest since I guess I lost mine years ago wheeling. I DO kind of want to spend a couple hundred bucks and some time pulling a Ford 9 inch and store it somewhere with plans to eventually have a buddy swap it in. Might be cool to have a D30 front and Ford 9 rear. Mostly cuz IDK WTF I'm doing out here. I just read this stuff on the internet.
01-24-2020 09:24 AM
COcamper
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Originally Posted by ADD View Post
I survived a week in Cabo San Lucas. At an all inclusive resort for a work conference. Not gonna lie, it was a little hard the first 2 nights, but then it was like nothing again.

My business partner got so shit face drunk on night 2, and spent the entire night puking his guts out with his head in the toilet. (I got some great pics and video from it though). He slept the entire next day trying to recover, while I went to the workshops feeling great.
It was then that I realized I was making the right choice.

My next big hurdles will be my own bachelor party and wedding at the end of this year. Will see how it goes.
Monday was 4 months for me....

Congrats to everyone else who is still keeping on
Nice job making it through a tough environment. I had a trip about 5 months into my journey (went on a cruise with 10 others) and had a similar experience. It was a little difficult that first day, when the drinks were flowing, but it didn't take long for me to come to the same conclusion you did. Looking back now, I can say that trip really helped me "see" I was making the right decision for me. It was during that trip that I was really able to recognize what I used to be like, and I realized I didn't want to be that person.

Congrats on hitting 4 months and congrats on the upcoming life events. Your next "big hurdle" is only as tall as you want to make it.

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Originally Posted by twitch57 View Post
On my 5th night clear for me. Just got back from the gym and enjoying an ice water.

Here we go
Nice work and good luck!

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Originally Posted by Gslander View Post
Had a few slip ups over the holidays. Drank a bottle of red wine, not on purpose, it was a long night and my damn wife and sister in law just keept topping it off. Realized at the end of the night that the empty bottle was all me, did not feel good the next day. Also had a glass of Champaign over news year and one last week when I got a job offer and told the company to F off cuz it sucked and I decided I was going to start a business. I really do not miss drinking, just the bitterness of the drinks and I miss beer. I do enjoy being sober at parties and functions, I feel more in the moment and present. I have lost 20lbs since october.
Doesn't sound like you are, but don't be too hard on yourself about the "slip-ups", shit happens!

I can't remember where I read this quote, but its one of the many on my garage wall:
"The first mistake is never the one that ruins you. It’s the spiral of repeated mistakes that follows."

I didn't think I would ever say, or hell, even think of saying: "I do enjoy being sober at parties and functions..." But I'm right there with you and enjoy being in the moment and having a full recollection of the conversations and events that transpired.

Nice work on dropping the extra pounds! It's a little easier to lose some weight when you aren't dumping a 1000 calories into your system at the end of the day!

Since I like quotes, I'll leave another that I just read not too long ago:

"Sobriety is kind of like the fast-pass at Disneyland, except the ride is growing up."

Stay strong everyone.
01-23-2020 09:32 PM
Gslander Had a few slip ups over the holidays. Drank a bottle of red wine, not on purpose, it was a long night and my damn wife and sister in law just keept topping it off. Realized at the end of the night that the empty bottle was all me, did not feel good the next day. Also had a glass of Champaign over news year and one last week when I got a job offer and told the company to F off cuz it sucked and I decided I was going to start a business. I really do not miss drinking, just the bitterness of the drinks and I miss beer. I do enjoy being sober at parties and functions, I feel more in the moment and present. I have lost 20lbs since october.
01-23-2020 09:17 PM
twitch57 On my 5th night clear for me. Just got back from the gym and enjoying an ice water.

Here we go
01-16-2020 05:16 PM
ADD I survived a week in Cabo San Lucas. At an all inclusive resort for a work conference. Not gonna lie, it was a little hard the first 2 nights, but then it was like nothing again.

My business partner got so shit face drunk on night 2, and spent the entire night puking his guts out with his head in the toilet. (I got some great pics and video from it though). He slept the entire next day trying to recover, while I went to the workshops feeling great.
It was then that I realized I was making the right choice.

My next big hurdles will be my own bachelor party and wedding at the end of this year. Will see how it goes.
Monday was 4 months for me....

Congrats to everyone else who is still keeping on
01-16-2020 03:25 PM
H8DWINGS I occasionally text my wife "X months" and get an emoji back. Thankfully I didn't quit a month early. No one wants to quit drinking on 4/20.
01-16-2020 12:37 PM
COcamper
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Originally Posted by H8DWINGS View Post
Who celebrates losing or quitting? What a weirdo

Good job man. You're kind of an inspiration at times for me. Sucks about the funeral. After going to my grandfathers and seeing one uncle just pretty much drink it away, and my dad was there like 20+ years sober I realize now the strength it takes to not drown your sorrows away.

would your friend call you something like a "sissy lala" for raising a sparkling water or diet Dr. Pepper to him? "cheers fucker. I know you hated this shit and I hate every day you're not here...so we're even."




I definitely did the "I'm not as bad as _____" myself. I realize now how others could have said the same thing and put my name in the blank. I have like 4 months to go. I kind of stopped counting the days or weeks and it occurs to me at the months. Even then it's a solid "meh" and that's how it should be, to me. "yay. congratulations on being a grown up. welcome to the party."
Thanks man, and back at you! I think inspiration comes from many in this thread and elsewhere...

It was a very nice memorial service, and a part of it was a toast of whiskey. I had my glass in hand (sans the whiskey) and raised it proudly! I know that no one cared or noticed what was in anyone's glass, I certainly didn't!

I think "celebration" was the wrong choice of words, as I haven't "celebrated" any of the personal milestones I have reached. I've acknowledged them to myself, basically gave myself an "atta boy" and carried on, more or less the same as your "Meh". I kept track for the first year (it was something that helped me at first, then I just continued until the 1 year mark), but haven't since other than I know what 1/15 means to me.

64Trvlr- Thank you for posting in this thread, if I remember correctly, you posted a month or so ago about hitting 30 years, that is awesome and truly inspiring.
01-15-2020 11:22 AM
64Trvlr
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Originally Posted by thecj3man View Post
Last Friday, January the 10th, was 4 years sober for me. It still seems like almost yesterday that I didn't have that first drink.
Congrats on 4 years!!

Amazing how the days go by isn't it?


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January 15th is more significant to me than my real birthday...

Today is 2 years without alcohol.

I had to go back a few pages to find my post above from one year ago. Saved me some time typing it out, as all of it still applies 1 year later.

How am I going to celebrate my "birthday"? Unfortunately I have a funeral to attend for a very good family friend, one I have known for 30+ years. I know the drinks will be free flowing and I will raise a glass in his honor, it will just contain something different than it would have 2 years ago. Kind of crazy how different events over the past 2 years have somehow aligned with my sobriety, serves as a good reminder that I'm going down the right path for me.

Stay strong everyone.
Congrats on 2 years today!

I have never found anything that being drunk or drinking will help or make better. Since I've been sober I've been to at least a dozen funerals, 3 weddings, 13 surgeries, had my leg cut off and none of that was worth having a drink over.

Waking up sober is a great feeling isn't it?
01-15-2020 10:00 AM
H8DWINGS
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Originally Posted by COcamper View Post
January 15th is more significant to me than my real birthday...

Today is 2 years without alcohol.

I had to go back a few pages to find my post above from one year ago. Saved me some time typing it out, as all of it still applies 1 year later.

How am I going to celebrate my "birthday"? Unfortunately I have a funeral to attend for a very good family friend, one I have known for 30+ years. I know the drinks will be free flowing and I will raise a glass in his honor, it will just contain something different than it would have 2 years ago. Kind of crazy how different events over the past 2 years have somehow aligned with my sobriety, serves as a good reminder that I'm going down the right path for me.


Stay strong everyone.
Who celebrates losing or quitting? What a weirdo

Good job man. You're kind of an inspiration at times for me. Sucks about the funeral. After going to my grandfathers and seeing one uncle just pretty much drink it away, and my dad was there like 20+ years sober I realize now the strength it takes to not drown your sorrows away.

would your friend call you something like a "sissy lala" for raising a sparkling water or diet Dr. Pepper to him? "cheers fucker. I know you hated this shit and I hate every day you're not here...so we're even."




I definitely did the "I'm not as bad as _____" myself. I realize now how others could have said the same thing and put my name in the blank. I have like 4 months to go. I kind of stopped counting the days or weeks and it occurs to me at the months. Even then it's a solid "meh" and that's how it should be, to me. "yay. congratulations on being a grown up. welcome to the party."
01-15-2020 09:34 AM
COcamper
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Once again, I'm quoting myself as I check in here...

Today is 1 year without alcohol. Wow, that feels really good and yet really weird to say/type. I'll share a few things I have learned over the past year with the hopes that maybe, just maybe it will help one person.

Let me preface it by saying: I am no expert on this, I have not received any professional help, hell, I haven't even really had a person to lean on when things got tough. In other words, I created this problem and I am determined to fix it. That WILL not work for everyone, it might not work for anyone, but it's working for me so I'm running with it.

I feel no need to share how much I used to drink, or for how long I had been drinking that much. That will serve no purpose except someone might twist it to their benefit, i.e. "well, I'm not as bad off as xxx, so I must be good..."

If you are reading this thread, I'm betting you aren't reading it for the entertainment value, if so, sorry to disappoint. Something got you to at least think about your drinking and to take a look in this thread. I have no clue what that was- Maybe it was hoping to see that you aren't as bad off as some, maybe you are looking for that golden nugget of wisdom that makes all your problems go away, maybe its hoping there is that one person that says "I quit drinking and it was the worst thing I ever did". Whatever your reason for wandering into this thread may be, I feel pretty confident in saying you won't find your answer here, but you will find a bunch of people that will lend you an ear, offer advice, and share their experiences. To me, that has been more valuable than anything else.

Sorry for the rambling, with all of that said, here are a few things I learned over the past 12 months:
- It's difficult, and that is a huge understatement! You can read and apply all of the acronyms or quotes you want, but I think it really does come down to just getting through one "thing" at a time. What that "thing" is will vary greatly. It may be the next hour, the next day, a birthday party, a Friday afternoon, a Sunday brunch, etc. The point is- set a short term goal- I will not have a drink for the next hour, rinse and repeat.
- You will find a sweet tooth that will make you want to fight a class room full of six year olds for their Halloween bucket! That's ok, enjoy your new found excitement over a bowl of ice cream, the hangover is much more enjoyable!
- Find something to occupy your time. I had to keep busy, especially during the "drinking hours", which for me was any time I wasn't working. This was actually pretty easy at the beginning and it felt good to see progress on projects. If you don't have something to occupy your time, now is a great time to pick up a new hobby, and it can be as simple as reading a book you have wanted to read or coloring a page in a coloring book. For me I cleaned my garage from top to bottom for the first time in 14+ years. That kept me busy for a lot of evenings and weekends, and there was, and still is, a fridge full of beer in the garage. Did I reach for that fridge on more than one occasion? Of course I did, but I wouldn't allow myself to open it, I would refocus on the task at hand and get through that "thing" without a drink, then start on the next "thing"...
- I kept a calendar (the real paper kind) and I looked forward to every morning that I could put another check mark on the previous day. Over the course of a year I can look back with fondness on different milestones that I in no way planned. The one that will stick with me for a long time- day 250 just happened to be on my daughters 20th birthday. Seriously, I can't make that shit up and it was just another one of many "moments" that reinforced to me that I was making strides in the right direction.
- Sleep- I did not think it was possible to get a good nights sleep without alcohol. The first week will only reinforce this notion. I can honestly say, sober sleep is fawkin awesome. You'll have to trust me on that one until you experience it...

Sorry for the long winded post.

Thanks to everyone that has offered support and shared their stories. If I can be of any help, please don't hesitate to reach out.
January 15th is more significant to me than my real birthday...

Today is 2 years without alcohol.

I had to go back a few pages to find my post above from one year ago. Saved me some time typing it out, as all of it still applies 1 year later.

How am I going to celebrate my "birthday"? Unfortunately I have a funeral to attend for a very good family friend, one I have known for 30+ years. I know the drinks will be free flowing and I will raise a glass in his honor, it will just contain something different than it would have 2 years ago. Kind of crazy how different events over the past 2 years have somehow aligned with my sobriety, serves as a good reminder that I'm going down the right path for me.

Stay strong everyone.
01-13-2020 10:48 AM
H8DWINGS
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Thank you. Wasn't a completely dry weekend, but I wasn't drunk either. Normally, I'd uber everywhere to avoid DUI concerns, but drove everywhere and actually remember the weekend. I'm enjoying having a clear mind and some self control. Had a sober Sunday. Feeling pretty good about things.
Being the designated driver is the easy "cop out" for me to say when people ask why I quit because telling them "when is it ever a bad idea to be a sober driver?" The clear mind is a really nice thing. Beer goggles don't just work on the wimmins.
01-13-2020 09:48 AM
thecj3man Last Friday, January the 10th, was 4 years sober for me. It still seems like almost yesterday that I didn't have that first drink.
01-13-2020 09:46 AM
denverd1
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Just had a late family Christmas. Whiskey and wine flowing. People kept offering me a drink and I kept saying no. It kind of got annoying but I wasn't the only one there not drinking which seemed odd TO ME. Cousin is trying to get pregnant so she didn't want to drink, cousin's wife is 8 weeks pregnant so she wasn't drinking. Other people drinking seemed like they could hold their alcohol more responsibly than me.

denverd1 good job. I congratulate you. Being proud of not spending 3 hours doing nothing but drinking is a cool thing to be proud of. What might you have accomplished with 3 hours of drinking before the flight other than sitting in a bar doing nothing? How is that any different than sitting in the terminal playing Clash of Clans of Fortnite? My wife is having a bunch of friends over Friday for a dinner. Sadly I won't be able to feed them booze and get them all fired up and drunk. They're on a "dry January" and if you can make it through all those conferences and work travel without drinking I am confident you can make it through a Friday night dinner. You can't expense the drinks at home.
Thank you. Wasn't a completely dry weekend, but I wasn't drunk either. Normally, I'd uber everywhere to avoid DUI concerns, but drove everywhere and actually remember the weekend. I'm enjoying having a clear mind and some self control. Had a sober Sunday. Feeling pretty good about things.
01-13-2020 08:45 AM
H8DWINGS Just had a late family Christmas. Whiskey and wine flowing. People kept offering me a drink and I kept saying no. It kind of got annoying but I wasn't the only one there not drinking which seemed odd TO ME. Cousin is trying to get pregnant so she didn't want to drink, cousin's wife is 8 weeks pregnant so she wasn't drinking. Other people drinking seemed like they could hold their alcohol more responsibly than me.

denverd1 good job. I congratulate you. Being proud of not spending 3 hours doing nothing but drinking is a cool thing to be proud of. What might you have accomplished with 3 hours of drinking before the flight other than sitting in a bar doing nothing? How is that any different than sitting in the terminal playing Clash of Clans of Fortnite? My wife is having a bunch of friends over Friday for a dinner. Sadly I won't be able to feed them booze and get them all fired up and drunk. They're on a "dry January" and if you can make it through all those conferences and work travel without drinking I am confident you can make it through a Friday night dinner. You can't expense the drinks at home.
01-10-2020 06:38 PM
ADD Just got to Cabo today. Gonna be at this all inclusive resort for a week. Gonna be hard , but I'm gonna tough it out
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