| 10-14-2019 03:45 PM |
| H8DWINGS |
I think drunk people are my FAVORITE people to be around. Heck, I realized how my (almost) 2 year old son is PRETTY MUCH a drunk. Took him grocery shopping and he wanted a fig bar (like a fig newton but hipster). Handed him one and grabbed a box. Oh he wants BOTH fig bars, but just wants to hold them. When I ask if I can have one I can't because they're his AND he wants to yell really loud screaming noises. So drunk, then gets some food, then settles down and he is just tired. It was AWESOME.
no way I could have handled that hungover. $10....yeah back then it was "well I better get a strong one so I can get a $40 buzz." and now it's like "fuck THAT shit, I'll get some soda and rott my teeth, AND have a better time. I saw some SUPER drunk kids (early 20s) at and Eric Church concert get removed...pretty much for being too drunk. SO GLAD I didn't spend $100 on tickets to get kicked out half way through because I pre-gamed too hard.
I might get lucky and find some concert/event where sober drivers get free soda. I threaten those people (open bar at my cousin's wedding) "I'll drink the FUCK out of some soda. Lets get all hopped up on sugar and make some bad decisions. Ever seen an adult with 160 grams of sugar in an hour? Want to?" I'm just as annoying sober as I was drunk.
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| 10-14-2019 10:32 AM |
| TiTRD |
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Originally Posted by ADD
It's so true. The thought of getting my drink on is just kind of "meh" now.
I went to a concert on saturday night, and not only did I save a shit ton of money by not buying 10 dollar beers, I woke up the next day feeling great and I didn't have to go check the hood of the truck for blood wondering how I got home.
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14 days.
Also went to a small concert Friday night. Had to have something in my hand, opted for NA beer. Sort of tasted like shit, but it did the trick.
I also realized how fucking annoying drunk people are 
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| 10-14-2019 09:36 AM |
| ADD |
It's so true. The thought of getting my drink on is just kind of "meh" now.
I went to a concert on saturday night, and not only did I save a shit ton of money by not buying 10 dollar beers, I woke up the next day feeling great and I didn't have to go check the hood of the truck for blood wondering how I got home.
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| 10-14-2019 09:31 AM |
| H8DWINGS |
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Originally Posted by ADD
1 month for me today
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That was kind of a huge day for me, but then it wasn't. I expected some big massive accomplishment feeling but it was more like "meh" which showed me just how important alcohol is. "meh" to getting hammered four to six nights a week. I thought it was so much fun for so many years, and it's just "meh" now. Keep it up. Maybe celebrate with a drink. 
147...hmm...I should do something to celebrate like run a shit ton. I was sick this weekend and I was SO GLAD I didn't want, or have, beer around. Probably would have made sitting on the toilet all day/night Saturday even worse. I guess I could just get really sick again if I want a hangover. Having a shitty day at work (I strongly dislike my current position) and I know the booze wouldn't change it in any way.
FJC fuck it. You have to start somewhere. Ain't no one perfect.
2JZ how was the wedding? I had one of those, along with a family gathering where I was glad I was the sober one. Both involved driving people home. The family gathering avoided a big conflict between family and I got to see a lifestyle I'd not want for my own child. Plus weddings can be fun when you've got all the smiles and joy from being drunk partying, but wake up sore only because you're too old to act that young, and not because you drank so much.
GiS I always felt the same way. This comes to mind. https://youtu.be/uNRzq-DcDzg It's so true. It's really fun to remember this, then hang out with people getting drunk.
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| 10-13-2019 05:57 PM |
| FJC11 |
5 minutes for me .
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| 10-13-2019 04:04 PM |
| ADD |
1 month for me today
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| 10-13-2019 04:03 PM |
| microtus |
I started having some sort of allergic reaction to beer a couple of months ago. The last straw was a test run by drinking about 1/4 can of beer and the following day having a major hangover. After that little episode I gave up on beer and decided to stick with bourbon.
Last night I had a couple fingers of Woodford Reserve and ended up in the same boat. Fuck it, I'm done with this shit. I quit once (September 16, 1989) for almost 10 years to the day. I can do it again.
October 13, 2019
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| 10-09-2019 10:48 AM |
| GiS |
I'll go 4-6 days sober and will feel like a million bucks, will be mentally sharper, will physically feel better/healthier/more fit and then somehow I will justify rewarding myself with a day off the wagon .. "Its Monday night football and you've been doing so well, treat yourself to a six pack and put your feet up, you've earned it!" .. then of course I find it takes me another 3-4 days to refocus and get back on track only to have the cycle repeat.
"Yesterday is not ours to recover, but tomorrow is ours to win or lose" - Lyndon B. Johnson
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| 10-08-2019 06:34 PM |
| 2JZ |
I posted here months ago that I was gonna quit. Didn't happen. Have been a nightly whiskey drinker for years. But I haven't had any alcohol since Friday. So today is day 4 for me. Not sure if I'm gonna quit for good, I just cant keep drinking a fifth every 2-3 days. Day in and day out. Its taking its toll on my body. I haven't been sleeping much the last few days, hopefully that gets better. But 4 sober hours of sleep seems more restful than 8 hours of drunken sleep.
My daughter is getting married Saturday. It will be a "sober" wedding. No one else on either side of the family drinks. So it would just be the wife and I. Somehow I pictured myself as being the drunken belligerent Dad at my daughters wedding. Should be interesting times.
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| 10-07-2019 12:39 PM |
| KDXSR5 |
Been helping a friend work through quitting smoking and drinking. Smoking was easy, the drinking has been difficult. Keep strong guys, even if you have to do it minute by minute. It's tough going through it yourself, it's a whole other thing to see someone you care about struggling through it. Just remember that no matter what choices you made in the past, even if it was 10 minutes ago, you have the chance to make a different choice now. Every choice made towards your own goal is a reason to be proud of yourself even if you do fuck up again. Just keep trying and don't give up on yourself!
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| 10-07-2019 10:46 AM |
| TiTRD |
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Originally Posted by H8DWINGS
Tobacco AND alcohol in the same month? Do you just hate yourself?  |
Never really needed chew unless I was stressed or drinking. I've reduced stress and stopped drinking. If I wasn't stressed or not drinking, I'd go days or weeks without it. Was pretty easy to quit for me (so far).
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| 10-07-2019 09:47 AM |
| H8DWINGS |
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Originally Posted by TiTRD
Day 7.
Doing the sober October thing. Not sure if it'll go beyond that, but needed a reset. Went to a buddy's camp this weekend armed with seltzer water, monster, and water. Was nice waking up without a hangover.
Edit: Quit chewing 15 days ago. Short term that sucked, but little urge now.
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Good job. A month is actually pretty long. You'll have all the same feelings as someone who quits. shitty day at work, social events, someone offers a beer then asks why you aren't drinking, FOMO, etc.
Tobacco AND alcohol in the same month? Do you just hate yourself?
Waking up without a hangover is kind of what keeps me going. I'm pretty sure my wife wouldn't care if I got shitfaced camping or whatever ONE night, but I sure wouldn't like it.
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| 10-07-2019 09:44 AM |
| H8DWINGS |
I can't say Bubly tastes like sodium. I don't drunk much salt water, but the Gatorade I drink has 230 mg, and sparkling water apparently has no requirement to list the ACTUAL ingredients. Either it's all the running I'm doing, or I'm somehow immune from it, but my doctor hasn't ever told me I have high sodium levels.
45ACP: gotcha. I don't recall my family telling me drinking was bad, or good, outside of a few times Mom acted like me having A beer at 15 was going to get me shitfaced, or when I had one at a graduation party, didn't try to hide it from her at all, and she gave me the "I KNEW YOU WERE DRINKING" tone. I was 18 and didn't care if she saw. I also didn't become a pothead because parents/tv/whatever told me weed was bad. So I guess I don't see how it applies. I think some people just like getting really drunk (raises hand) and other people don't like feeling that way.
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| 10-07-2019 05:40 AM |
| ky scrambled |
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Originally Posted by TiTRD
Day 7.
Doing the sober October thing. Not sure if it'll go beyond that, but needed a reset. Went to a buddy's camp this weekend armed with seltzer water, monster, and water. Was nice waking up without a hangover.
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I just got back from a Thur-Sun wheeling trip where I did the exact opposite. 
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| 10-07-2019 05:36 AM |
| TiTRD |
Day 7.
Doing the sober October thing. Not sure if it'll go beyond that, but needed a reset. Went to a buddy's camp this weekend armed with seltzer water, monster, and water. Was nice waking up without a hangover.
Edit: Quit chewing 15 days ago. Short term that sucked, but little urge now.
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| 10-07-2019 05:19 AM |
| LeadfootCJ7 |
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Originally Posted by H8DWINGS
Where did you find this out? Says nothing on the can. Sounds like something someone made up and spread on the face pages so people start taking it as truth.
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I'm not expert and haven't dealt with this specific product. Most of those flavored waters have a decent amount of sodium (I presume based on how they add the flavoring)
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| 10-07-2019 04:58 AM |
| 45acp |
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Originally Posted by H8DWINGS
Eh, power drinking to the point of making others quit isn’t parents fault. I went to college with a guy who said he would drink a 30 pack a night. Even then I knew that was WAY too much beer for one guy who wasn’t even 21 to drink. My dad quit drinking before I can remember and I still drink to get drunk. It’s no one else’s fault. People make choices. Some choose to drink until it hurts because it’s fun. Some choose to hang out with those people and laugh alongside while also having a smile on their face the next morning when everyone else feels like they drank too much. Plenty of adults act the same ways kids do and know better.
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I don't think that was his point- he's not really blaming the parents taking the responsibility off the end user... just pointing out that the lack of guidance with alcohol doesn't help.
Along the same lines (since I still have or know alot of childhood friends)
- Most of the kids who had parents that were moderate/ responsible drinkers grew up to be moderate. Sure, they partied a little but quickly figured out that hangovers suck, getting shitfaced is stupid, and fell into moderate usage.
- Most of the kids who had parents that were teetotalers with drinking being wrong/ sinful/ wicked grew up to be drunks. A handful figured out moderation, but way later in life than necessary. Others became alcoholics, once a week problem drinkers, or reformed teetotalers themselves.
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| 10-06-2019 09:15 PM |
| H8DWINGS |
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Originally Posted by engnmonkey
Maybe i worded that poorly.
We replaced soda with a flavored sparkling water beverage called clear american, which has aspartame (an artificial sweetner) listed on the can.
We then started drinking Bubly, which we both prefer due to the lack of artificial sweetner
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Ah. Yeah I buy like 4 12 packs, bitch about spending $20 then say ‘pfff I’d spend that on a bottle last year.’ Or my favorite is when my wife says it’s a lot and I say ‘yeah beer is a lot cheaper. Let’s go grab a 30 pack of Coors Light.’
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| 10-06-2019 09:13 PM |
| H8DWINGS |
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Originally Posted by ADD
This is the exact reason why I'm now part of this thread. Only replace wife, with fiance.
I got kicked out of the house probably 5 times in the last 5 months because she never knew who was gonna walk through the door when I got home from work. I tried to hide it as much as I could. I'd play it off and blame it on my medication....she knew I was lying.
3 days would pass and I'd talk my way back in, say I would change and she would believe me.
Well this last time was the final time....
She has now seen that I have changed. I'm still going to therapy on my own, we are doing couples therapy as well, and our relationship couldn't be stronger since I have quit the sauce.
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I’d drink and pass out on the couch. Wife told me I pissed on the bedroom floor and I didn’t remember it. She hated me when I hit 4 beers (cuz that’s when she stopped counting and I decided I was drinking them all) and I’m no (in MY VIEW) different now than I was drunk except I don’t have the drunk feeling. I never got kicked out but got threatened with divorce. I felt like a piece of shit when I told her ‘there is nothing in your life I’d tell you you can’t ever do again’ almost as a way to allow myself to drink still. Now....I ain’t got time cuz I got too much shit to do. Weird how that seemed to work out. I had plenty of time to day drink last year but this year I seem to do more. I didn’t even sit down (except driving) until dinner and after that it was about 8:00 when I hit the couch to fold laundry. A year ago that was when I’d be on beer 4 cuz I could drink two more before bed and wake up ‘just fine’ for work.
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| 10-06-2019 09:08 PM |
| H8DWINGS |
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Originally Posted by stjames151
That’s a fair statement, but you probably also didn’t have someone egging you on to play Russian roulette cause they were impressed with your ability to not shoot yourself. I’m simply saying that there’s such a stigma around adults allowing the younger crowd to imbibe in their presence that they often are only surrounded by ignorant peers suggesting errant behavior is not only acceptable, but preferable (ie. drinking games that glamorize those that can hold out well past others). I had several friends that were known as “the guy that could drink you under the table” and were expected to, as though that was a good thing. They, to a person, are all alcoholics to the detriment of everyone in their sphere of influence. I’m not suggesting they are not responsible for their own actions, but learned responses are harder to overcome when dealing with addictive substances.
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Eh, power drinking to the point of making others quit isn’t parents fault. I went to college with a guy who said he would drink a 30 pack a night. Even then I knew that was WAY too much beer for one guy who wasn’t even 21 to drink. My dad quit drinking before I can remember and I still drink to get drunk. It’s no one else’s fault. People make choices. Some choose to drink until it hurts because it’s fun. Some choose to hang out with those people and laugh alongside while also having a smile on their face the next morning when everyone else feels like they drank too much. Plenty of adults act the same ways kids do and know better.
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| 10-06-2019 07:52 PM |
| stjames151 |
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Originally Posted by H8DWINGS
I bought my first handgun with no instructions and I could have purchased as much ammo as I wanted. Nothing to stop me from dumping a full cylinder of 357 into the desert ‘because my friend dared me’ and I think I bought a 357 because the guy behind the counter said revolvers were better than semi autos. Society isn’t to blame for my choices. I had access to the internet and downloading porn was a regular thing but I didn’t go to kiddie stuff or animal beating. There wasn’t really a joint ‘let’s watch sex’ thing so I guess I miss the point. I was old enough to know what I was doing (drinking to get drunk) and my wife expected me to make a change or she would.
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That’s a fair statement, but you probably also didn’t have someone egging you on to play Russian roulette cause they were impressed with your ability to not shoot yourself. I’m simply saying that there’s such a stigma around adults allowing the younger crowd to imbibe in their presence that they often are only surrounded by ignorant peers suggesting errant behavior is not only acceptable, but preferable (ie. drinking games that glamorize those that can hold out well past others). I had several friends that were known as “the guy that could drink you under the table” and were expected to, as though that was a good thing. They, to a person, are all alcoholics to the detriment of everyone in their sphere of influence. I’m not suggesting they are not responsible for their own actions, but learned responses are harder to overcome when dealing with addictive substances.
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| 10-06-2019 01:29 PM |
| SanDiegoCJ |
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Originally Posted by ADD
This is the exact reason why I'm now part of this thread. Only replace wife, with fiance.
I got kicked out of the house probably 5 times in the last 5 months because she never knew who was gonna walk through the door when I got home from work. I tried to hide it as much as I could. I'd play it off and blame it on my medication....she knew I was lying.
3 days would pass and I'd talk my way back in, say I would change and she would believe me.
Well this last time was the final time....
She has now seen that I have changed. I'm still going to therapy on my own, we are doing couples therapy as well, and our relationship couldn't be stronger since I have quit the sauce.
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Sharon knew me when I was still drinking. She got divorced after I'd quit and she's told me that she would have never gone out with me if I'd still been drinking.
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| 10-06-2019 11:38 AM |
| ADD |
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Originally Posted by H8DWINGS
I was old enough to know what I was doing (drinking to get drunk) and my wife expected me to make a change or she would.
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This is the exact reason why I'm now part of this thread. Only replace wife, with fiance.
I got kicked out of the house probably 5 times in the last 5 months because she never knew who was gonna walk through the door when I got home from work. I tried to hide it as much as I could. I'd play it off and blame it on my medication....she knew I was lying.
3 days would pass and I'd talk my way back in, say I would change and she would believe me.
Well this last time was the final time....
She has now seen that I have changed. I'm still going to therapy on my own, we are doing couples therapy as well, and our relationship couldn't be stronger since I have quit the sauce.
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| 10-06-2019 05:34 AM |
| engnmonkey |
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Originally Posted by H8DWINGS
Where did you find this out? Says nothing on the can. Sounds like something someone made up and spread on the face pages so people start taking it as truth.
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Maybe i worded that poorly.
We replaced soda with a flavored sparkling water beverage called clear american, which has aspartame (an artificial sweetner) listed on the can.
We then started drinking Bubly, which we both prefer due to the lack of artificial sweetner
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| 10-06-2019 04:30 AM |
| H8DWINGS |
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Originally Posted by stjames151
I've not ever heard someone put this more succinctly. Nearly all the people I know that could carry on past "the line" early in life got "put to the challenge" pretty regularly. It was a novelty that entertained other's curiosity for a minute, but put the challenged in a spiral that was difficult to get out of for the rest of their lives.....if they made it out. I think part of the difficulty maximized by our culture is the puritanical separation of adults from adolescents in this arena. We don't just let kids go out and drive, shoot, or make take other major leaps unless we personally guide them through their first steps, yet we expect that one day, they'll just know how to drink/vote without oversight and leadership and guidance.
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I bought my first handgun with no instructions and I could have purchased as much ammo as I wanted. Nothing to stop me from dumping a full cylinder of 357 into the desert ‘because my friend dared me’ and I think I bought a 357 because the guy behind the counter said revolvers were better than semi autos. Society isn’t to blame for my choices. I had access to the internet and downloading porn was a regular thing but I didn’t go to kiddie stuff or animal beating. There wasn’t really a joint ‘let’s watch sex’ thing so I guess I miss the point. I was old enough to know what I was doing (drinking to get drunk) and my wife expected me to make a change or she would.
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